“Today I am sober and you are sober.”
That’s how the episode ends — two grown women wearing alien headbands, debating whether the ocean is actually space. Because let’s be honest, sobriety doesn’t mean you stop asking weird questions. It just means you remember to hydrate between them.
The internet is currently losing its collective mind over something called 3I Atlas — apparently the third interstellar visitor to enter our solar system. Detected in July 2025, moving like it knew where it was going, and then—because drama loves a plot twist—it vanished for 19 seconds before popping back up. Cue NASA’s website going dark during a government shutdown and voilà: TikTok had content for days.
Tamar and I did what any sober Gen X women would do: laugh first, then ask better questions.
The Dread We Used to Drink About
Let’s call it out: cosmic dread used to be a drinking cue.
Aliens, elections, wars, climate doom, or that one headline about “scientists discovering something mysterious in space”—all solid excuses to pour another glass.
“I used to drink to avoid dread,” Alysse says. “Because dread feels like powerlessness.”
And nothing makes humans feel more powerless than the idea that something massive, ancient, or off-planet is headed our way and we have zero say in it.
So we do what we’ve been conditioned to do: doom scroll, obsess over 19-second YouTube clips, and convince ourselves we just need to know what’s really going on. “It’s a probe.” “It’s a psyop.” “It’s Project Blue Beam.” “It’s fallen angels.”
Because once you can name it, it feels smaller.
The Recovery Reframe
Tamar nails it: if aliens were coming, would some people drink over it? Absolutely.
Not because aliens are terrifying—but because they were already looking for a reason.
“Those are people who were gonna drink anyway,” is what you’ll hear me say in this video. “There’s something they haven’t made peace with on the inside.”
That’s the heartbeat of sober pop culture: the world will always hand you a reason to escape. Sobriety just keeps whispering back—choose clarity.
Space vs. The Sea: We’re the Ants
And here’s where it gets deliciously humbling: we claim to know what’s out in space, yet 90% of our own ocean remains unexplored. “We know more about space than the ocean, we’re basically ants trying to explain the galaxy.”
But there’s freedom in that. Ants don’t run the universe. They just do the next ant thing.
That’s recovery energy right there: stay present, stay curious, and stop pretending we’re supposed to control the cosmos.
The Sober Superpower of 2025
We’re living in a world where AI can fake space footage, government sites crash at inconvenient moments, and viral creators can build a cult following off 11 minutes of “research.”
Discernment is a recovery tool now.
Be careful, friends. There’s a lot of fake out there.
That’s not paranoia. That’s sobriety.
Final Landing
Uncertainty isn’t a relapse cue.
We don’t have to drink just because the universe is big.
Curiosity can be sober.
You can stream UAP documentaries and sip a tinfoil mocktail.
Presence still wins.
“Today I am sober and you are sober.”
That’s the whole ballgame.
So if the UAPs show up wearing top knots, great.
If it’s just a rock, also great.
If it’s a psyop—well, we’ll podcast about it.
Either way, we’re meeting it with clear eyes and no hangover.
Come for the conspiracy. Stay for the clarity.
And if the aliens put their pants on one leg at a time like the rest of us… We’ll save them a seat on the sober side.
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In this lively roundtable, The Sober Curator crew dives deep into Mel Robbins’ viral book ”The Let Them Theory ” — and the controversy swirling around it. Hosts Alysse Bryson and Tamar Routly welcome guests Dr. Sarah Michaud, Megan Swan, Tony Harte, Carolyn Bunn and Amy Liz Harrison for a spirited discussion on whether ”Let Them” is really a theory, how it fits into codependency work, and what it misses for people in recovery. Expect strong opinions, a healthy dose of sass and more than a few laughs as the group rates the book and explores what boundary-setting means in sober life.
Timestamps:
[00:00] – Dr. Sarah Michaud opens with a critical question: Can people actually ”let them”?
[01:13] – Show intros: Meet The Sober Curator Podcast hosts and this week's panel of sober experts.
[02:56] – What is Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory” all about? Pop culture, controversy and viral moments.
[05:06] – Meet the guests! Panelists weigh in on their first impressions.
[08:56] – Dr. Sarah and Tony Harte debate: is this really a theory, or just marketing?
[11:05] – Copyright, tattoos and the story behind ”Let Them”: Is it original?
[15:17] – Can everyday people really apply ”The Let Them Theory” in real life — or in recovery?
[18:37] – Amy Liz Harrison shares a personal story about friendships, boundaries and people-pleasing.
[20:19] – Apologize, back off, celebrate progress? The panel critiques Mel's proposed solution.
[24:00] – Megan Swan: ”This book isn't for people with deep trauma” — who is the real audience?
[33:24] – Alysse Bryson on how sober circles are NOT the norm for most people.
[34:53] – Indie publishing, bestsellers and grandiosity: Should we trademark ”Let Me”?
[44:12] – Put a Sobee on it! The panel gives their Sobee Scores for Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory”
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–Book: ”The Let Them Theory”
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–Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide
–LBGTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide
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