Author: Tamar Medford

Embarking on a sobriety journey is a brave and transformative decision, but maintaining the motivation to stay on this path can be challenging. Equipping yourself with practical strategies and a robust support system is essential to keep your resolve unwavering. The tips outlined below will guide you through various aspects of your life, helping you stay focused, inspired, and committed to your recovery. 1. Find Your Tribe One of the most significant factors in staying motivated is surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals. Join a group or community where members share similar goals and lifestyles. Whether it’s a 12-step program, a…

12 Tips To Staying Motivated on Your Sobriety Journey From Sobriety For Dummies by Lane Kennedy + Tamar Medford Embarking on a sobriety journey is a brave and transformative decision, but maintaining the motivation to stay on this path can be challenging. Equipping yourself with practical strategies and a robust support system is essential to keep your resolve unwavering. The tips outlined below will guide you through various aspects of your life, helping you stay focused, inspired, and committed to your recovery. 1. Find Your Tribe One of the most significant factors in staying motivated is surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals.…

The Countless Reasons to Choose Sobriety From Sobriety For Dummies by Lane Kennedy + Tamar Medford The decision to embrace sobriety is often influenced by a myriad of compelling reasons. Whether it stems from a personal epiphany, a health scare, or a nudge from loved ones, this choice marks a significant turning point in one’s life. While each individual’s journey is unique, the benefits of living a sober life are universally profound and far-reaching. Sobriety offers a renewed sense of clarity, emotional stability, and physical well-being that reverberates through every aspect of daily life. It provides an opportunity for personal growth,…

Ward Richmond once epitomized the high-flying life of a commercial real estate broker, where client entertainment often revolved around excessive drinking. But the illusion that alcohol enhanced social skills and curbed anxiety caught up with him—fast. Richmond’s journey from an alcohol-reliant socialite to a spiritually grounded sober individual is both inspiring and relatable for anyone struggling with addiction. In this interview, we will explore Richmond’s transformative story and how sobriety has reshaped his personal, professional, and creative life. YouTube Link Sobriety and Spirituality: Richmond’s True North Richmond’s tale of overcoming his addiction began in late 2015 when he made his…

Unlocking 12 Health Benefits of Sobriety: A Comprehensive Look From Sobriety For Dummies Embarking on the journey to sobriety is one of the most transformative decisions you can make for your overall well-being. It’s a question many have pondered: “What are the health benefits of sobriety?” The answer is both extensive and profound. Sobriety offers a myriad of benefits that touch every aspect of your life, from physical health to mental clarity, emotional stability, and social well-being. By removing alcohol and drugs from your life, you open the door to a healthier, more vibrant existence. The changes are not just…

As I sat down to write my first book, Hope Elevated, I had no idea this journey would catalyze a profound personal transformation. In the beginning, I was unaware of the series of events that would soon unfold, ultimately leading me to confront and embrace my sexuality. Throughout my sobriety, I often questioned if my story was even worth sharing. I had a loving family and a good upbringing. Yet, there was one thing that set me apart: a genetic predisposition to addiction. The actual trigger for my descent into addiction, though, was the heavy secret I carried. It was…

Even though I have a genetic predisposition to addiction, a significant reason I started drinking was my inability to accept who God made me to be. I knew I was different, but fear kept me from admitting it. Instead, I turned to alcohol, spending the next 22 years getting blackout drunk and trying desperately to force myself into heterosexual relationships. It took me 46 years, including ten years into my sobriety journey, to finally find the courage to explore my sexuality. I am incredibly lucky because I had supportive friends and family who encouraged this journey. Sadly, many others are…

My name is Tamar, and I am an alcoholic. While saying these words once carried the weight of shame and fear, today they empower me. When I embraced the truth about my inability to drink normally, it opened doors to a life I never imagined possible. It took me twenty-two long years to confront my drinking problem and still another decade after getting sober before I came to accept my truth and live it fully: I am attracted to women. Remember the game Truth or Dare? I recall playing it for the first time at age twelve. While most of…

Dear Moms, Today, as someone who just became a co-parent last year, I want to have a heart-to-heart conversation with you. As mothers, we share the incredible joys and profound challenges that come with raising children. But what if I told you that some mothers face an additional layer of complexity—a journey that often goes unseen and unrecognized? What if I also mention that some of us are doing this without the aid of alcohol at the end of a long hard day? I’m talking about raising neurodivergent children while striving to maintain sobriety. True Story: A recent outing with my…

Being a mother is a beautiful journey filled with love, laughter, and challenges. However, if you’re a mom with neurodiverse children who finds solace in alcohol, I want you to know that you’re not alone. Many women face similar struggles, and it’s essential to find healthier coping mechanisms to ensure a brighter future for yourself and your children. Welcome to Laughing Without Liquor, a safe space where we empower moms like you to discover the joy of laughter without relying on alcohol. Understanding the Challenges: Neurodiverse children bring unique joys and challenges into our lives. (I know I was shocked…

Sobriety is a journey that requires a great deal of strength and resilience. It is a process of breaking free from addiction and regaining control over one’s life. While the journey may be challenging, many people find that tapping into their higher power or god can provide them with the support and guidance they need to stay on track. One of the most important reasons to tap into your higher power or god in sobriety is that it can provide a sense of purpose, meaning and guidance. Addiction can leave people feeling lost and without direction, but connecting with a…

On this episode of the “Now What?!” Society Podcast, Tamar and Lane answer another listener’s question about overcoming the romanticizing thoughts we have about alcohol. Topics Discussed: Just Ask Us! We love to have fun on the show, and we encourage our listeners to be a part of that conversation! Do you have a specific question, topic or a “would you rather” question you’d like us to talk about on the show? CLICK HERE to find this podcast on Apple podcasts THE NOW WHAT SOCIETY: Meet Tamar Medford & Lane Kennedy, hosts of the podcast, The Now What Society, and Founders of The…

In this episode of the “Now What?!” Society Podcast, Tamar and Lane talk about why self care is so important and why we need to schedule it for ourselves on a regular basis. Here are some of the things we talked about: We love to have fun on the show and we encourage our listeners to be a part of that conversation! Do you have a specific question, topic or a “would you rather” question you’d like us to talk about on the show? Visit the website: https://thenowwhatsociety.com/ Check out our Community Where “tired, fed up” Gen X women come…

Have you reached a point in your life where you thought, “WTF! I can’t take this anymore!” Unfortunately, it takes most of us to reach that point before we’re willing enough to make the change required to release the stress, tension, and frustration that goes along with hitting our breaking point. Why is it that we can’t stop repeating the same mistakes over and over and expecting different results? Why has stress become such a normal part of our daily lives? Why don’t we do something about it sooner? We continue to hide the secrets we think people will judge…

Personal empowerment is independence. It is using your strengths, capabilities, and knowledge to tackle life. It is about choosing to direct your life no matter what obstacles or challenges may come your way. Personal empowerment is about taking charge of your life and understanding that you have the power to make it what you want. Instead of allowing it to wear you down or others to control your thoughts and actions, personal empowerment embraces life and encourages you to take the necessary steps to be in control and stay in control. STEP ONE: Be Assertive and Take Action It’s rare…

Do you have any bad habits you can’t seem to kick? Here is an example that I think so many of us can relate too. Have you ever decided to go on a diet, stuck too it for a length of time and then decided to eat one thing off plan to find yourself right back into overindulging? You are not alone! Bad habits can be hard to break but here are a few ways that you can get started.  Develop a Practice Did you know that breathwork can improve anxiety levels and lower cravings? This awareness can help you stay…

Staying energetic throughout work is something most people around the world struggle with. While proper diet, sleep, and hydration certainly play a role, many other factors can contribute. The simple fact of not wanting to do the work or being in the wrong career can quickly drain your energy too. Nothing is worse than trying to get through your daily work tasks while struggling to keep your eyes open. Thankfully, you can incorporate many tips and tricks into your everyday life to manage it much more easily. These five tips will help you stay energetic at work to maximize productivity.…

Being alcohol free heightens your awareness drastically: Colors become brighter, food tastes better, touch is more intense. In this full sensory state we introduce the element of travel making your brand new experience in an unfamiliar place euphoric!! So why does this matter you ask? Well because HOOKED Full Sensory Travel is going to Costa Rica! Deadline is September 12th, 2022. About HOOKED Full Sensory Travel: Their purpose is to get you HOOKED on healthy habits. They will expose you to as many healthy experiences as possible during this full sensory adventure. Guests are exposed to hands-on experiences that will…

Any place you go: a coffee shop, work, or home, can be transformed into a thriving atmosphere. It doesn’t take fancy equipment or money to make it happen either. A successful atmosphere just requires positivity, responsibility, movement, and organization – all skills you can learn and possess over time with practice and patience. Transforming any atmosphere into a successful one is a crucial tool. Understanding how your environment can harm you or help you is essential. To be sure that you achieve your goals and live the life you desire no matter where you are, minding your atmosphere counts. The…

INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT (TRANSCRIPTION IS NOT PERFECT) Tamar: We’re live. Lane: Welcome back. Tamar: Where’s the spray lane. Lane: Oh, wait, hold, please hold. So good. Tamar: I still haven’t gotten any, I think with the episodes we have out now, it’s probably about two months of us doing the spray. Yeah. I should get some, you should get some, and I haven’t gotten any that’s okay. Lane: That’s okay. You can get some soon. I’m hanging out here with my friend, Tamar, Medford, Tamar: and I’m hanging out with my friend lane Kennedy Lane: and you are hanging out with us on your sober. Now, what. Now, what’s…

It is a fact that just about everyone faces difficulties in life. Adversity comes in all shapes and sizes, including physical, mental, emotional, financial, and more. While the type of adversity one faces in life requires different resources to get through it, they all offer something or a lesson to be learned. In other words, while adversity is harsh, it still brings benefits to your life that you may not otherwise learn or gain. The following are important lessons adversity can teach you: Gratitude and Positivity While increased positivity may sound counterintuitive while facing adversity, it is still true. The…

Have you reached a point in your life where you thought, “WTF! I can’t take this anymore!” Unfortunately, it takes most of us to reach that point before we’re willing enough to make the change required to release the stress, tension, and frustration that goes along with hitting our breaking point. Why is it that we can’t stop repeating the same mistakes over and over and expecting different results? Why has stress become such a normal part of our daily lives? Why don’t we do something about it sooner? We continue to do things like hiding the secrets we think…

In this episode of, You’re Sober! Now What? Podcast, Tamar, and Lane talk about emotional sobriety and why it’s important in order to develop long-term recovery. Brought up in our conversation today: INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT (TRANSCRIPTION IS NOT PERFECT): Lane: This is my friend, Tamar Medford, Tamar: And this is my friend Lane Kennedy. Lane: And we’re here hanging out with you, talking about all good things. Tamar: So if you’re a gen X-er because we were talking about the music and the trends of the nineties. That was a good time. Lane: So good. Tamar: So good. Lane: So good. And I just happened to get sober…

Mindfulness is a skill anyone can acquire. It helps to reduce stress and improve your overall life. It helps you be more conscious of your actions, thoughts, and emotions in order to make better decisions. In short, mindfulness is key to successfully getting control of your life. Here Are Seven Reasons Why: Focus When you’re more mindful about your actions, thoughts, and what you are personally doing, you’re much more likely to complete tasks and get things done effectively and successfully. Emotional Intelligence An emotionally intelligent person is self-aware enough to regulate their emotions and take healthy actions. As a…

If you ask five different people their idea of success, you will likely get five different answers. This is because everyone’s version of success is different. According to the dictionary, success is defined as accomplishing an aim, purpose, or objective. You are likely successful when you do a set of actions that result in achieving a goal. Learning how everyone identifies success can help you understand yourself better to unlock more opportunities and achieve everything you want in life. Here are seven forms of success to achieve more in life Inner Success Your inner success includes your emotional success –…

Online besties, Tamar Medford and Lane Kennedy share their life experiences and hilarious adventures as two women living in long-term recovery. (Which is often messy!) With over 35 years of continuous sobriety, Tamar & Lane support women over 40 who have hit the f*ck it button and find themselves asking WTF! Now What? INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT (TRANSCRIPTION IS NOT PERFECT) Lane: I’m ready. So nice. You should get some, Tamar: can you spray some over here? Lane: Yeah. It’s like Rosewood. It’s so nice. Tamar: That was fun. Lane: What was fun? Tamar: The spray, the spray. Oh yeah. I love the spray. I do the spray…

Taking action is the most important thing you can do to accomplish your goals. While planning is a crucial first step, it should never be your primary focus. Without action, you have nothing. Take Control and Identify Your Resistance To take control, you must figure out what is holding you back. Overthinking or procrastination are not the causes. They are the result of your resistance. The truth within you that must discover if you want to keep moving forward. Often overthinking is due to fear. Fear of making mistakes, stepping outside of your comfort zone, or simply the unknown. Whatever…

Being an effective listener is a powerful communication technique that you can use to build a rewarding life. Great listeners can solve complex problems, unite organizations and people, and run successful businesses. Listening is the first step to adopting proper communication skills and it positively impacts your life, business, and community. Optimizing your listening skills is necessary to achieve more of your goals or dreams in life. Here are four key benefits to being a great listener, and how this necessary skill improves your overall life. Improved Relationships When you hear what others are saying more than you talk, you…

Today on the You’re Sober! Now What? Podcast Lane and I chat about Courage and what it means for those who live a sober lifestyle. Listen: Apple Podcasts * Spotify * Google Podcasts INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT (TRANSCRIPTION IS NOT PERFECT) Tamar: Okay. Are you ready? Lane: Ready Tamar: Let’s talk about courage Lane: Courage to change, courage to walk across the street. Some days that’s a challenge. Courage to get out of the house. Yes, courage to wake up in the morning, courage to get out of bed, courage, to be a good human being courage, not flip people off courage to be a wife, courage, to not sleep…

Online besties, Tamar Medford and Lane Kennedy share their life experiences and hilarious adventures as two women living in long-term recovery. (Which is often messy!) With over 35 years of continuous sobriety, Tamar & Lane support women over 40 who have hit the f*ck it button and find themselves asking WTF! Now What? They help women find their Three G’s over in the Now What Society. Learn how to pause.Reframe your toxic thinking.Develop more meaningful connections.Gain clarity on who you are so you can bust out and live the life of your dreams. Nothing is off-limits so get ready to…