If you were hoping for a sober podcast that whispers about withdrawal in hushed tones, you haven’t met The Sober Curator. In Episode 20, the crew donned banana costumes, sipped on slushies with comically oversized straws, and tackled the very unpeeled (pun heavily intended) realities of sharing sober lives online. In a world where one viral banana-chomping Instagram story can change your digital trajectory, it’s clear sobriety today is about much more than staying away from happy hour.
So, why get silly to talk about something as serious as recovery? As Dr. Sarah Michaud shared, “It is a balance… you can own and identify pain and tough times and still have fun and be light.” For many, humor and creativity are the ultimate tools for smashing stigma and showing that sober life is about presence, connection, and, yes, big laughs.
When the Algorithm Goes Bananas: Sober Content and Attention Addiction
A recurring theme throughout the episode was the tricky relationship between sobriety, social media, and attention. The crew—Alysse, Tamar, Kate, Megan, Jason, and Dr. Sarah—opened up about the tension between creating authentic content and being swept up by likes, follows, and, sometimes, internet creeps.
Kate’s tale is a cautionary (and hilarious) one. What started as posting daily “banana reels” to keep up with Instagram trends led to unexpected attention and a sobering realization: “I’ve actually done like four or five reels with a banana before I even realized it was becoming a bit… but I got lost in the sauce.” Her account soon drew the wrong audience, with messages bordering on harassment. For Kate, the reset meant starting a new, intentionally sober-themed page: “I put the word ‘sober’ in there for a reason. It’s like, follow me if you want this content.”
The reality? The dopamine hit of social media engagement can be addicting—something every recovering addict knows. Tamar put it bluntly, “I have a dopamine deficiency. I will do anything, even drink a slushie and wear a monkey costume.” Social media metrics easily fill the void once occupied by substances, but the episode’s message was clear: posting with intention and boundaries is the way forward.
Navigating Sober Advocacy in a Performative World
The episode wasn’t all jokes—there was real reckoning over what responsible advocacy looks like. As Alysse noted, “It’s so easy to get caught up in the quantity that we can lose sight of the quality… if we save the life of a couple of people, that will have made it worth it.” The group agreed: the temptation to chase viral moments or “influencer” status is strong, but the goal is genuine connection and hope.
Jason, reflecting on his own experiences, said, “My motives are in a much better place… I’m putting it out there for a specific reason… now I’m helping people in recovery.” Social media can highlight the best and worst parts of our nature—comparison, codependency, and craving for validation—but it can also be an unparalleled tool for service and solidarity.
Getting sober matters. Staying sober matters more. That’s the whole premise.
The Sober Curator Podcast brings sober lifestyle, pop culture and recovery to the mic with personality, perspective and a glitter bomb of honesty. Founder and host Alysse Bryson (sober since May 1, 2006, and self-described Kevin Bacon of Recovery) is joined by co-host and show producer Tamar Routly of Podcast Impact Studio, plus a rotating bench of global Sober Curator contributors who pull up a chair as co-hosts.
What we cover, episode to episode:
Happy Every Hour: zero-proof drinks, NA beer, spirits and cocktails, reviewed by people who actually drink them.
Health and Wellness: mental health, physical health and what recovery looks like on a Tuesday.
Lifestyle: dating, parenting, shopping, style and the everyday logistics of alcohol-free living.
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Spiritual Gangster: Jesus to astrology, stoicism to the Celtic calendar.
Travel: sober events, sober retreats, Sobriety in the City and global travel without a drink in hand.
We also review other sober podcasts on Recovery Podcastland, dig into sponsored product spotlights, and go deep with contributors on how they got sober and what keeps them there. New episodes drop as video on YouTube and audio everywhere you listen.
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A.J. Daulerio got sober in the middle of the Hulk Hogan trial. Three months in, every defect of character he had was being read to a jury. He calls it fourth step dinner theater.
Then he built The Small Bow, the recovery publication Alysse was embarrassed she didn’t know about: literary essays, free Zoom meetings every day of the week, a podcast, and now a book. Two magazine people and a producer try to name the category they’re in, and mostly fail.
In this episode:
- Why AJ interviews himself in the car (and who he pretends is asking)
- “Sober BuzzFeed” vs. “literary meat”: what each of us is building and who it’s for
- The Harper’s story about AA that made AJ pay $100 a year, and why nobody writes for people who are past rock bottom and a little adrift
- Abstinence, sobriety, recovery: why 12-step is one of nine things AJ does
- The Hulk Hogan trial, the Uber driver who didn’t care, and the lesson in humility
- The Small Book, out Dec. 29
Heads up: this one goes to some dark places, including a reader AJ lost and a friend Alysse lost. Take care while listening.
CHAPTERS
00:00 The train, off the tracks
01:28 AJ interviews himself in the car
05:34 How Alysse found The Small Bow
11:39 “Chicken soup for the dark night of the soul”
14:40 Are we wellness? Sound baths and trust falls
15:19 Sober ten years, and the problems get classier
18:54 Abstinence, sobriety, recovery: 12-step is one of nine
26:35 The Harper’s story that started everything
29:58 Literary meat vs. sober BuzzFeed
41:15 Fourth step dinner theater: the Hulk Hogan trial
46:57 “I’m the writer. I’m the human.”
48:47 “So you met Hulk Hogan?”
57:17 What AJ would tell year one
01:01:59 “Fast-forward to the part they get sober”
Sober Shots:
“You’re allowed to build your whole life around a routine nobody will ever write a headline about.” (Alysse Bryson)
“All the things that I thought were being taken away from me were also the things I needed to let go of the most.” (A.J. Daulerio)
Mentioned in this episode:
– The Small Bow – The Small Book, out Dec. 29 – I’m The Sober Curator, and I Just Found The Small Bow – S2E17 with Paulina Pinsky – Backstage with The Sober Curator
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– Meet the Contributors – Alcohol + Substance Use Disorder Guide – Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide – LGBTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide – Family Resource Guide
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Music: TSC S2 theme “Sober Shots” created by Alysse Bryson using Suno AI, under Suno’s commercial license.
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