If you were hoping for a sober podcast that whispers about withdrawal in hushed tones, you haven’t met The Sober Curator. In Episode 20, the crew donned banana costumes, sipped on slushies with comically oversized straws, and tackled the very unpeeled (pun heavily intended) realities of sharing sober lives online. In a world where one viral banana-chomping Instagram story can change your digital trajectory, it’s clear sobriety today is about much more than staying away from happy hour.
So, why get silly to talk about something as serious as recovery? As Dr. Sarah Michaud shared, “It is a balance… you can own and identify pain and tough times and still have fun and be light.” For many, humor and creativity are the ultimate tools for smashing stigma and showing that sober life is about presence, connection, and, yes, big laughs.
When the Algorithm Goes Bananas: Sober Content and Attention Addiction
A recurring theme throughout the episode was the tricky relationship between sobriety, social media, and attention. The crew—Alysse, Tamar, Kate, Megan, Jason, and Dr. Sarah—opened up about the tension between creating authentic content and being swept up by likes, follows, and, sometimes, internet creeps.
Kate’s tale is a cautionary (and hilarious) one. What started as posting daily “banana reels” to keep up with Instagram trends led to unexpected attention and a sobering realization: “I’ve actually done like four or five reels with a banana before I even realized it was becoming a bit… but I got lost in the sauce.” Her account soon drew the wrong audience, with messages bordering on harassment. For Kate, the reset meant starting a new, intentionally sober-themed page: “I put the word ‘sober’ in there for a reason. It’s like, follow me if you want this content.”
The reality? The dopamine hit of social media engagement can be addicting—something every recovering addict knows. Tamar put it bluntly, “I have a dopamine deficiency. I will do anything, even drink a slushie and wear a monkey costume.” Social media metrics easily fill the void once occupied by substances, but the episode’s message was clear: posting with intention and boundaries is the way forward.
Navigating Sober Advocacy in a Performative World
The episode wasn’t all jokes—there was real reckoning over what responsible advocacy looks like. As Alysse noted, “It’s so easy to get caught up in the quantity that we can lose sight of the quality… if we save the life of a couple of people, that will have made it worth it.” The group agreed: the temptation to chase viral moments or “influencer” status is strong, but the goal is genuine connection and hope.
Jason, reflecting on his own experiences, said, “My motives are in a much better place… I’m putting it out there for a specific reason… now I’m helping people in recovery.” Social media can highlight the best and worst parts of our nature—comparison, codependency, and craving for validation—but it can also be an unparalleled tool for service and solidarity.
Getting sober is one thing—but staying sober? That’s where the real adventure begins.
This show is for you if you’ve ever wondered:
– Where can I find inspiring sober podcasts, apps, and creators?
– How do I give back or stay plugged into the sober community
– What are the best sober-friendly drinks and travel tips?
– Where do I find the good NA drinks that don’t taste like regret?
The Sober Curator is your go-to for sober pop culture, booze-free travel, apps, creators, and community.
We’re not here to help you get sober.
We’re here to help you live sober—and love it.
In this gripping episode, Alysse sits down with filmmaker Benjamin Flaherty for a powerful conversation about the business behind addiction recovery — and why too many families are left carrying shame, confusion, and financial devastation while trying to save their loved ones. Benjamin’s documentary exposes the economics, ethics, and emotional fallout inside the modern treatment industry, while also honoring the parents, advocates, and survivors who continue fighting for change.
From medically assisted treatment debates to the insurance inequalities that shape who gets quality care, this episode goes deeper than most sober conversations dare to go. It’s raw, urgent, and grounded in truth — the kind of discussion that can only happen in a space built for honesty.
Takeaways:
Families aren’t alone. Many parents attend screenings thinking their child’s exploitation or treatment experience was “their fault” — Benjamin’s film shows the systemic patterns behind the pain.
Recovery has an economic engine. Benjamin describes the shocking moment he realized how profitability shapes care, access, and outcomes in the treatment world.
Insurance determines who gets humane care. Both Benjamin and Alysse reflect on how “good insurance” gave them safe recovery environments — an advantage many don’t have.
Pop culture shapes our understanding. Films like Dopesick, Painkiller, Pain Hustlers, Body Brokers help raise awareness but flatten nuance; documentaries add back the complexity.
Conversations spark courage. When parents meet each other at screenings, shame lifts and the real healing begins.
Key Timestamps:
00:06:40 — Benjamin’s turning point: quitting alcohol & cocaine in high-pressure advertising
00:07:45 — The myth of “the next milestone” that will magically fix everything
00:08:20 — Why treatment is the only major health process most people don’t understand
00:26:26 — Parents finding relief and validation through the film
00:27:00 — The economics of recovery: what families aren’t told
00:28:00 — Alysse shares her own insurance-based experience and privilege in treatment access
00:28:20 — Pop culture portrayals of recovery & exploitation (Body Brokers, Painkiller, Dopesick)
00:41:56 — The media Benjamin loves — and what representations resonate most
Resources & Links:
Website / Film https://www.stoptheshuffle.com/
Instagram: @benjaminflaherty
YouTube Trailer: OFFICIAL TRAILER | SHUFFLE
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Sobriety isn’t the end of the party—it’s just the start of a better one. Hosted by Alysse Bryson, media powerhouse and sobriety’s ultimate hype woman, and joined by Sober Curator contributors, The Sober Curator Podcast* delivers bold convos, pop culture deep dives, and zero-proof living that doesn’t suck. Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or just looking for good vibes without the hangover, we’ve got you covered. Subscribe now—because getting sober matters, staying sober matters more.
*The Sober Curator Podcast is a space for open and honest conversations about sobriety, recovery, and alcohol-free living. While we celebrate all paths to a sober lifestyle, some topics discussed may be sensitive or triggering for certain listeners. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you’re in recovery or exploring sobriety, please take care while listening and seek support from trusted professionals as needed.
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