
Why Listen?
This podcast is all about hitting rock bottom, finding your purpose, and discovering that sometimes, what feels like the end is really just the beginning.
I’m Kate Vitela—a nurse, coach, and someone who got a second chance when I thought there were no more chances left. After being mandated into a monitoring program, I realized that I wasn’t just here to survive—I was here to grow, change, and help others do the same. Now, I bring together the science of addiction, the truth about mental health, and the raw reality of recovery, mixing it with humor and a whole lot of heart.
Here, there’s no fluff, just real talk. No matter where you are on your journey, I’m that friend in your ear—here to inspire, relate, and support you as you discover what’s possible in sobriety and self-discovery.
You’ve been selected for a reason. Let’s dive in.
In this episode, I’m diving into the truth that no one tells you about getting sober: the real work starts after you put down the drink.
For many of us, the next layer of recovery is learning how to navigate our relationships without numbing, fixing, or losing ourselves in other people.
This one is for anyone who is navigating sobriety with a partner who still drinks.
- What happens when your nervous system finally stops buzzing
- Why peace can feel threatening after a lifetime of survival mode
- The sneaky ways people-pleasing and codependency show up post-sobriety
- Setting boundaries without guilt (and why it’s so damn hard)
- Healing the real root of addiction: disconnection from self
If you’re sober (or sober curious) and finding that your relationships are now the thing taking up all your emotional bandwidth, you are so not alone.
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Meet Your Host - Kate Vitela
Kate Vitela is a Certified Addiction Registered Nurse (CARN), board-certified nurse coach, and sobriety advocate with over two decades of nursing experience. After getting sober in 2018, Kate pivoted her career to focus on mental health, addiction recovery, and personal development. Her unique approach merges addiction science, spirituality, and humor, offering a fresh perspective on the journey to healing and self-discovery. As the host of the You’ve Been Selected podcast, Kate shares raw, relatable conversations about recovery, resilience, and finding purpose after hitting rock bottom. Drawing from her own experiences with addiction and professional challenges, she combines storytelling, scientific insights, and practical tools to inspire and empower her listeners.
Kate’s passion for recovery extends beyond the microphone. She writes about addiction and mental health for platforms like The Sober Curator, where her blog, Walk Your Talk, explores the intersection of fashion, self-image, and sobriety. She also works one-on-one and in group coaching settings, helping others navigate their sobriety journey with compassion, honesty, and humor.
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