Financial Sobriety: Is 51 Too Old to Take Control of My Finances?

Hi everyone! Welcome to the first official installment of my Financial Sobriety column. I’m Greg, a former financial advisor, author of the forthcoming book 12 Steps to Financial Sobriety, and leader of The Sober Money Club financial support group. I’m so glad you’re here.

This first question might hit close to home for anyone who feels like it’s too late to take control of their finances.

Let’s dig in…

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Dear Greg,

I am 51 years old and I feel so financially far behind that I’ll never catch up. Because of this, I just keep telling myself it’s ok to live one day at a time and not worry about it. I know this is not a financially smart strategy. What is something small I can start doing today that will make a difference?

Sincerely,

Small But Mighty

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Hey Small But Mighty!

First, thank you. This question took guts to write.

Second, let’s talk about “one day at a time.” In the rooms, that phrase means “do today’s work.” Go to a meeting. Call your sponsor. Don’t drink for the next 24 hours.

With money, that phrase can become “I’ll deal with it later.” And that’s where the danger happens. Later becomes never and the balance keeps sitting there in dark.

That’s the opposite of financial sobriety.

The word doing damage

Being 51 years old isn’t a problem. Feeling “behind” is. Behind implies a race and a leaderboard. We see everyone else’s glamorous lifestyle on social media, assume they have it all figured and are way ahead. The odds say they are not. In fact, a recent survey shows that over 60% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck.

There is no leaderboard.

There’s just you and your relationship with money.

The ostrich effect

You’re already aware that not worrying about it is not a financially smart strategy. And that avoidance is what human beings do when we think we’re at the bottom of that nonexistent leaderboard.

Behavioral economists have a name for it. They call it the “ostrich effect.” It means we look less often when we suspect the news is bad. Researchers found people who rarely check their balances spend far more erratically, especially right after payday. They’re flying blind.

Your one small thing

Take 90 seconds and open your bank app. Look at the number and write it down. Then close the app.

That’s it.

Now do that every day. Add it to the morning routine. Coffee, breakfast, bank app.

You’re not fixing anything. You’re just going to the meeting.

It feels pointless. But think about what you’d tell a newcomer to the rooms when they tell you “Meetings are pointless. I’m just sitting there.” You’d tell them, “keep coming back.” That’s what I want you to start doing with your balance.

Awareness comes before action. You do Step 1 before Step 7. You don’t need a whole new budget right now.

Do this for a few weeks and here’s what you’ll notice: nothing major. That number you’ve been avoiding stops having the same emotional impact it did on day one. It becomes “just a number.” And that’s the point.

What you’re really asking

You asked about one small thing, but I think you were really asking whether it’s too late to bother.

It’s not.

Even the government thinks so. In fact, the IRS lets people 50 and over put an extra $8,000 into their 401(k) on top of the standard limit. It’s called a catch-up contribution. When the tax code says you have time, you know you’re not alone.

You already know how to do hard things one day at a time. Now it’s time to do it one dollar at a time.

Until next time,

Greg

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Financial disclaimer: This column provides general financial education and reflects the author’s perspective. It is not individualized financial, investment, tax or legal advice. Consider consulting a qualified professional about your specific circumstances.

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HEALTH & WELLNESS: Financial Sobriety – A New Column About Taking Money One Day at a Time, Too

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The Sober Curator’s MENTAL HEALTH + WELLNESS section is your go-to guide for nurturing emotional well-being—especially for those in recovery. Explore resources, expert insights, and personal stories that connect the dots between mental health, sobriety, and self-care. From managing anxiety and depression to building mindfulness and emotional resilience, we provide practical tools and inspiration to help you thrive alcohol-free. By fostering open, stigma-free conversations, we empower our community to make emotional wellness a cornerstone of long-term recovery.

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