The Autumn Equinox is a sacred pause, a moment in time when light and dark hang in perfect balance. It’s as if the earth takes a breath, exhaling summer’s intensity and inhaling autumn’s crisp, cool promise. For those of us walking the path of sobriety and recovery, this time of year offers rich metaphors for our healing journeys. It is a season that invites reflection on the balance between light and dark and within ourselves, our choices, and our relationships. Just as the Earth finds equilibrium, we are called to notice how we can do the same.
Balance is a constant theme in recovery—between rest and action, giving and receiving, boundaries and openness. Yet, how often do we allow ourselves to pause and take stock of where we are? The Autumn Equinox is a gentle reminder that life is cyclical and that we are not meant to be in a state of constant doing. It offers a perfect time to reflect on the past year, assess what is still serving us, and consider what needs releasing as we prepare for the colder, quieter months ahead.
Embracing the Balance of Light and Dark
Sobriety brings with it a reckoning—a deep, unflinching look at the parts of ourselves we have long tried to avoid. In recovery, we learn we can’t live in the light without acknowledging our shadows. Just as the equinox calls us to honor both day and night, we are invited to honor the duality within ourselves.
In early sobriety, the focus often feels like a desperate clinging to the light—white-knuckling through the urge to drink, doing everything possible to stay on the “right” path. Over time, though, we realize that true healing involves turning toward the darkness. We cannot sustain sobriety by running from our shadows. Healing asks us to gently, compassionately invite them in. This doesn’t mean indulging the parts of ourselves that seek to harm or self-destruct; it means acknowledging the pain, the fear, and the trauma that fueled our addiction. Both light and dark have something to teach.
Autumn is the perfect time for this kind of inner work. We are naturally drawn inward as the days grow shorter and the nights longer. There’s a stillness in the air, an invitation to rest and reflect. Questions arise: What am I ready to let go of? What beliefs, habits, or relationships are no longer serving my sobriety? What do I need to gather and harvest before the year’s end?
The Season of Harvest
The equinox is a time of harvest, a celebration of abundance. It’s a moment to gather the fruits of our labor and reflect on what we’ve cultivated in our lives. In recovery, we can think of the autumn harvest as an opportunity to take stock of our inner work. What have we been nurturing within ourselves? What tiny seeds of change have we planted that are now beginning to bear fruit?
Perhaps healthier boundaries have taken root over the past year, or maybe a more profound sense of self-compassion has begun to bloom. Possibly, you’ve cultivated a stronger support system or started to rediscover joy in life’s simple pleasures. These are your harvests, the tangible evidence of your growth.
But just as a farmer doesn’t harvest every crop, we also need to discern what is worth keeping and what needs letting go. Not everything we’ve planted will come to fruition, and that’s okay. Sometimes, the seeds of intention we plant don’t sprout, or they sprout in ways we didn’t expect. The Autumn Equinox reminds us it’s okay to let go of what hasn’t worked, to cut away the dead branches, and make room for new growth.
The Power of Letting Go
Letting go is perhaps one of the hardest lessons in recovery. We want to hold on—to people, habits, ideas that once brought comfort or a sense of control. But recovery is about learning to release, to trust that we don’t need to cling to what no longer serves us.
As the leaves begin to fall, there’s a reminder of the beauty in release. The trees don’t resist the shedding of their leaves; they let them go, trusting the cycle of life will continue. In sobriety, we are asked to embrace a similar letting go. Whether it’s the stories we’ve told ourselves, identities we’ve clung to, or coping mechanisms that once kept us safe, a release is necessary for growth.
This isn’t easy. Grief comes with letting go, even when we know it’s for the best. However, the equinox teaches that releasing the weight of what no longer serves is vital to staying balanced. As the Earth moves through seasons, so are we meant to evolve. Evolution requires leaving behind what no longer aligns with who we are becoming.
Practices for Sobriety During the Autumn Equinox
Create a Gratitude Harvest:
As autumn unfolds, take time to reflect on the “harvest” of your recovery journey. What have you cultivated this year? Make a list of the things you are grateful for in sobriety—whether they are big accomplishments or small, everyday joys. Gratitude is a powerful antidote to the scarcity mindset that often accompanies addiction. By focusing on abundance, there’s a reminder that there is more than enough—more than enough time, support, and healing available to us.
Release Ritual
Just as the trees release their leaves, create a ritual to let go of something weighing you down. This could be a belief, a habit, a toxic relationship, or even an expectation you’ve placed on yourself. Write down what you are ready to release on a piece of paper, and then safely burn it, bury it, or tear it up. Allow yourself to feel the grief of letting go, but also trust that in releasing, space opens for something new to grow.
Balance Meditation
The Autumn Equinox is all about balance. Take some time to meditate on areas in your life that feel out of balance. Where are you overextending yourself? Where are you holding back? Imagine yourself as the Earth on the equinox day, perfectly balanced between day and night. As you breathe in, imagine drawing in energy from the light; as you breathe out, imagine releasing the heaviness of the dark. Visualize yourself standing tall and grounded, finding your center.
Connect with Nature
Autumn is a time of profound beauty in the natural world; something is healing about being in nature as the seasons shift. Go for a walk in the woods or sit quietly by a body of water. Pay attention to the changing colors, the falling leaves, and the crispness of the air. Let nature mirror your internal process. As the trees let go, allow yourself to shed what no longer serves. Just as the Earth prepares for rest, rest is a gift to yourself.
Journaling for Reflection and Intention-Setting
The equinox is a powerful time for reflection. Set aside some quiet time to journal about the following questions:
- What have I harvested in my recovery this year?
- What am I holding onto that needs release?
- Where do I feel out of balance in my life, and how can I restore that balance?
- What seeds of intention do I want to plant for the months ahead?
After reflecting, consider setting a small, manageable intention for the coming season. This might be like committing to more rest, practicing self-compassion, or deepening a connection with a recovery community. Let it be something that feels nourishing and aligned with your path.
Preparing for the Season Ahead
The Autumn Equinox is not just a seasonal marker; it’s an invitation to recalibrate. In sobriety, we constantly move through growth, reflection, release, and renewal cycles. The equinox reminds us we don’t have to be in a state of constant striving. There is beauty in the pause, balance, and quiet.
As the darker half of the year approaches, trust that the work you’ve done will continue to unfold. There is no rush, no need to push. Healing happens in its own time, just as the seasons shift without our control.
In this season of balance, recovery isn’t about perfection. It’s about finding equilibrium and learning to live in harmony with our light and shadows. Just like the Earth, we are always in a state of becoming, constantly cycling through moments of growth, harvest, and release. The Autumn Equinox is a reminder that in sobriety, as in life, balance is not something we achieve once and for all—it is something we continuously cultivate, one season at a time.
ANNE MARIE CRIBBIN – Recovery Coach and Spiritual Companion at Thirsty For Wonder
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