In a world obsessed with cocktails and wine culture, finding your tribe of like-minded, sober-curious friends isn’t always easy. Thankfully, The Sober Curator has your back every week with a fresh episode of THIS JUST IN—a no-B.S. roundup of all things inspiring, surprising, and delightfully alcohol-free. From jaw-dropping personal transformations to exclusive events that don’t require a designated driver, this week’s episode, hosted by Alysse Bryson and Tamar Routly, is packed with reasons to celebrate sobriety as a vibe, not just a lifestyle.
In this recap, we’ll unpack the week’s top stories, gift guides, must-attend events, and so much more—from a “junkie to judge” memoir to RuPaul’s stunning journey. Ready to trade in happy hour for a happier life? Let’s dive in.
From Rock Bottom to the Bench: Mary Beth O’Connor’s Memoir
Kicking off the episode, Alysse spotlights From Junkie to Judge by Mary Beth O’Connor—a memoir with more twists than a reality show finale. Once a meth addict struggling on the edges of society, O’Connor’s transformation into a respected federal judge is nothing short of cinematic. This story isn’t just about recovery; it’s about reinvention, growth, and hope for anyone who feels the odds are stacked against them. As Alysse puts it, Mary Beth’s metamorphosis has “more growth than Pete Davidson’s dating history.” If you need proof that it’s never too late to reclaim your narrative, this read should jump straight to the top of your “Quitlit” wishlist.
Sober Soundtrack: The Rise of Jonas Connor
If you think sobriety means trading your edge for dullness, teen music prodigy Jonas Connor is here to shatter that illusion. Only 15 years old and already serving up tracks like “Father in a Bible” and “Peace with Pain,” Jonas’s lyrics pack the emotional punch of artists decades older. He’s “more soul than a Motown reunion,” his work resonates with anyone navigating the emotional rollercoaster of recovery or simply life itself. Think Adele and Sam Smith vibes… but with a Gen Z journal twist.
Sober Gift Guide: Thoughtful Ideas Beyond Candle Fatigue
Nothing says “I see you” like a gift that doesn’t involve a bottle of cabernet or a snarky wine glass. The Sober Curator’s latest gift guide drops wine openers and scented candles in favor of chic mocktail sets, luxe self-care bundles, and other meaningful presents. Finally, a list that acknowledges and celebrates sobriety—not just as something you endure, but as something worth honoring with style.
Sharper Than Your Aunt’s Side-Eye: Comebacks for Nosy Nellies
Let’s face it—sometimes, the most draining thing about being sober isn’t skipping happy hour, it’s fielding awkward questions. The podcast drops gold-standard one-liners for those moments, from “I prefer my drama on Netflix, not in my liver,” to “I’m already high on life and caffeine.” The next time someone prods you about skipping the booze, come armed with these comebacks (and enjoy watching the conversation pivot).
Sober Retreats & Events: Where Memories Aren’t Blurry
Celeb Sober Spotlight: RuPaul’s Authentic Journey
The episode’s showstopper is none other than RuPaul—drag icon and a leading light in the sober community. With 26 years clean, RuPaul’s memoir House of Hidden Meanings opens up about using substances as a child and the journey to sobriety inspired by love. Here’s the ultimate proof that thriving in sobriety isn’t just possible—it’s fabulous.
Keep the Conversation Going
Sobriety isn’t just ditching the drinks; it’s about reclaiming your narrative, living intentionally, and finding joy in unexpected places. Stay tuned to The Sober Curator for community, resources, and weekly reminders that the best stories aren’t found at the bottom of a wine glass. As Alysse Bryson closes each show: “Getting sober matters. Staying sober matters more.”
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Getting sober is one thing—but staying sober? That’s where the real adventure begins.
This show is for you if you’ve ever wondered:
– Where can I find inspiring sober podcasts, apps, and creators?
– How do I give back or stay plugged into the sober community
– What are the best sober-friendly drinks and travel tips?
– Where do I find the good NA drinks that don’t taste like regret?
The Sober Curator is your go-to for sober pop culture, booze-free travel, apps, creators, and community.
We’re not here to help you get sober.
We’re here to help you live sober—and love it.
Therapist, author and media pro Kelley Kitley joins Alysse to unpack “gray area” drinking, stigma around labels and what long-term recovery really feels like — including a visceral craving moment and the simple, honest tools that kept her sober. They also dig into cross-addictions, perimenopause curveballs, parenting teens and how sharing your story (even when it’s messy) can change lives.
Takeaways:
“Gray area” drinking thrives on qualifiers; clarity reduces stigma and increases connection.
Cravings can resurface years in — play the tape forward and “tell on yourself” to your sober network.
Sharing your story can be a professional risk — and a lifeline for others (and you).
Language and identity (“alcohol-free,” “sober,” “alcoholic”) often depend on social circles; choose what supports your recovery.
Perimenopause symptoms can echo old patterns; stack healthy coping tools early.
Key Timestamps:
[02:01] — Alysse’s Chicago intro + Kelley’s “grew up above a bar” backstory.
[06:00] — Media hustle: pitching herself, ”Today Show” bump and making impact.
[09:08] — Making her mess her message: therapist transparency & the book.
[18:32] — A real-time craving in a hotel — and the group text that saved the day.
[34:23] — Labels, stigma and the “gray area” short film.
[27:26] — Perimenopause, rage, sleep and staying out of old habits.
Resources & Links:
-Kelley Kitley: Website, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook
-Book: ”MY self: An autobiography of survival”
-TEDx: ”I show my scars so others know they can heal”
–The Kelley Kitley Podcast: America's Social Worker Unfiltered
-YouTube: ”Gray Area”
–Alcohol + Substance Use Disorder Guide
–Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide
–LBGTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide
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Sobriety isn’t the end of the party—it’s just the start of a better one. Hosted by Alysse Bryson, media powerhouse and sobriety’s ultimate hype woman, and joined by Sober Curator contributors, The Sober Curator Podcast* delivers bold convos, pop culture deep dives, and zero-proof living that doesn’t suck. Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or just looking for good vibes without the hangover, we’ve got you covered. Subscribe now—because getting sober matters, staying sober matters more.
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*The Sober Curator Podcast is a space for open and honest conversations about sobriety, recovery, and alcohol-free living. While we celebrate all paths to a sober lifestyle, some topics discussed may be sensitive or triggering for certain listeners. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you’re in recovery or exploring sobriety, please take care while listening and seek support from trusted professionals as needed.
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SOBER POP CULTURE at The Sober Curator is where mainstream trends meet the vibrant world of sobriety. We serve up a mix of movie, podcast, fashion, and book recommendations alongside alcohol-free cocktails, celebrity features, and pop culture buzz—all with a sober twist.
We’re here to shatter the “sobriety is boring” myth with a mash-up of 80s neon, 90s hip-hop edge, early 2000s bling, and today’s hottest trends. From celebrity shoutouts to red-carpet style inspo, this is where sober is as chic as it is fun. To the celebs using their platform for good—our Sober Pop Trucker hats are off to you!
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