After reading the memoir “From Junkie to Judge, One Woman’s Triumph over Trauma and Addiction” by Mary Beth O’Connor, I was overwhelmed and wonderstruck by the resilience demonstrated throughout this book. In my 30 years of being a psychologist working in the field of addiction, I have never read an account of such profound and relentless trauma experienced by one woman. Her unmeasured determination to find sobriety and create a better and brighter future was a reminder of the courage that permeates the human spirit.
At times, it was painful and disturbing to read the accounts of ongoing physical abuse by her mother and others including sexual violence, kidnappings (yes, plural) and the devastation of the ongoing progression of her substance abuse. It made complete sense to witness this young girl longing for relief from alcohol, pot, methamphetamine, cocaine, basically anything she could get her hands on as an attempt to ease her pain. The patterns of relationship abuse, the progression of her addiction and the degree of her denial were heartbreaking.
At the core of this book is a story of hope and empowerment. O’Connor emphasizes that recovery is a deeply personal journey and one can create their own individual recovery plan. This was a new concept to the recovery sphere at the time. Where most folks would attend a twelve-step program, Mary Beth decided that the twelve steps were not going to be the foundation of her sobriety. While in treatment, she realized that she needed something different than the concept of a higher power. This began her search for a different solution, leading to the connection with like-minded individuals and communities online.
This is a powerful message that one size does not fit all in recovery. It was a formidable moment when she describes being in treatment and realizing — with terror — that the twelve-step program may not work for her. The fear she experienced while wondering what other options were out there was potent and debilitating. Folks at the treatment center were telling her she needed to get on board to stay clean. It took bravery and determination to make a decision to find her own way on her recovery path. She advocates the importance of finding a recovery road that aligns with one’s beliefs and values and trusting your internal barometer to know what is best for you.
Her commitment to her recovery, the healing of her trauma and her personal growth led her back to law school, where she excelled and eventually became a federal administration law judge. What an example of the possibilities of this journey to sobriety. “From Junkie to Judge” is about transformation. The book is a powerful reminder of the human capacity for resilience, change, courage and the healing of the heart to be of service to others. Thank you, Mary Beth, for walking your own journey and being an example for us all.
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