The Sober Curator Podcast’s 13th episode welcomes Michael Toscano, a Brooklyn-based hospitality veteran who transitioned from mixing award-winning martinis at Dante, once crowned the world’s #1 bar, to championing non-alcoholic spirits with The Pathfinder. Toscano’s journey, candidly shared with hosts Alysse Bryson, Tamar Routly, and Alex Nyman, offers a front-row seat to the changing landscape of sobriety—one where grown-up, complex zero-proof beverages and authentic community take center stage.
The conversation kicks off by debunking the myth that sobriety is all rainbows, butterflies, and immediate self-improvement. Toscano recalls a pivotal personal moment three months into his sober life: a candid confrontation with his wife, Brooke, on a train platform. Her honest question—“Why are you being such a dick right now?”—pulled back the curtain on the emotional work required in recovery. Michael realized sobriety wasn’t just subtracting alcohol, but facing truths, processing emotions, and building new habits.
Having grown up around recovery, he knew the lingo and community, but it took lived sobriety to understand the effort and self-discovery truly involved. “That was the moment I really realized it was about to get hard,” Toscano admits, setting the stage for a conversation about meaningful transformation beyond abstinence.
From Whisky to Pathfinder: Authenticity in the Non-Alcoholic Movement
Transitioning from serving (and selling) premium bourbon at Woodford Reserve to leading the charge for The Pathfinder, one of the fastest-growing non-alcoholic spirits brands, was both practical and deeply personal for Toscano. What made the leap possible? Supportive colleagues and a corporate culture that embraced, rather than shunned, sobriety. The validation was powerful: “We got you 100%. Don’t worry about it.”
Yet, authenticity beckoned. Toscano ultimately left his whiskey role, not out of shame, but because it no longer reflected his truth—paving the way to work with non-alcoholic brands. A chance encounter with The Pathfinder team during Seattle Cocktail Week, connections forged with like-minded friends, and the eventual opportunity to build Pathfinder’s presence in New York marked his new chapter.
Moving Beyond Juice Boxes: The Maturation of Zero-Proof Culture
A recurring motif in Toscano’s dialogue is the call for sophistication in non-alcoholic options: “Death to the juice box.” He laments the typical syrupy, simplistic ‘mocktails’ offered at too many bars—an afterthought compared to ambitious, complex cocktail menus. For Toscano, true hospitality means everyone at the bar, drinker or not, feels valued and celebrated.
He envisions a near future where zero-proof becomes the norm, akin to the vegan or vegetarian menu evolution. No more “lemon, ginger, and simple syrup” as the only non-alcoholic option—he demands drinks “with the same amount of enthusiasm and dedication” as their spirited counterparts.
With insight and humor, Toscano and Bryson discuss generational shifts: Gen Z is drinking less, and by 2030, alcoholic consumption may carry a cultural taboo similar to smoking today. Still, Toscano predicts a rise in “low-ABV” culture—drinks with reduced alcohol— alongside the continued growth of no-alcohol alternatives.
The “zebra striping” trend is proof: consumers alternate between alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages in a single night, blending experience and well-being. Ultimately, the point isn’t prohibition—it’s choice, balance, and belonging.
Community, Service, and the Pay-It-Forward Effect
Toscano’s impact extends beyond drinks. Moments of personal connection—an email from someone 50 days sober, inspired by a single conversation—fuel his passion. In his words, working for The Pathfinder allows him to serve others authentically, “the closest thing I can do in my life to being of service.” This sentiment echoes throughout the recovery community: show up authentically, help without expectation, and celebrate every milestone, no matter how small.
Episode 13 of The Sober Curator Podcast reveals a movement as much about quality drinks as it is about deep, honest living. Toscano’s story of resilience, innovation, and hospitality shows that you don’t have to choose between great vibes and sober living. As he urges, getting sober is just the start—staying sober, showing up for others, and demanding the best for everyone at the bar is where the real magic happens.
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Alysse Bryson, co-host Tamar Routly, and The Sober Curator crew dive into Apple TV+’s ”Your Friends & Neighbors” — a glossy, suburban caper that doubles as a case study in dopamine, status, secrets and the kind of “more, more, more” thinking recovery warns us about — through a sober pop-culture lens that’s equal parts smart, spicy and fun. This episode's contributors: Sarah Alaimo, Carolyn Bunn Lane Kennedy, Dr. Sarah Michaud and Megan Swan.
Takeaways:
-Addiction isn’t just substances—status, wealth, control, and adrenaline can be addictive too.
-Loss of job = loss of identity: the show nails how quickly “high-high-high” becomes the spiral down.
-Repressed anger and detachment fuel bad decisions (and some very expensive chaos).
-Dopamine-chasing shows up as bingeing—on shopping, sex, TV, and even risk.
-Beneath the glamour, real connection beats gold toilets and glass trophy shelves every time.
Key Timestamps:
[29:57] — Decompress & don’t overthink: Accept what was, then rest.
[01:10] — “Hangovers canceled, fun mandatory”—show intro & premise.
[02:23] — Why ”Your Friends & Neighbors?” The setup + panel roll call.
[12:36] — Wealth, identity, and the slippery slope after losing it all.
[21:57] — ”Big Little Lies” × ”Succession” vibes; addiction beyond booze.
[34:39] — Star ratings + lightning-round snacks & sober sips.
Resources & Links:
-The Sober Curator Review: ”Your Friends & Neighbors”
-Watch on Apple TV+: ”Your Friends & Neighbors”
–Alcohol + Substance Use Disorder Guide
–Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide
–LBGTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide
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Sobriety isn’t the end of the party—it’s just the start of a better one. Hosted by Alysse Bryson, media powerhouse and sobriety’s ultimate hype woman, and joined by Sober Curator contributors, The Sober Curator Podcast* delivers bold convos, pop culture deep dives, and zero-proof living that doesn’t suck. Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or just looking for good vibes without the hangover, we’ve got you covered. Subscribe now—because getting sober matters, staying sober matters more.
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HAPPY EVERY HOUR: Based in the Pacific Northwest, The Pathfinder Nonalcoholic Spirit Alternative Will Become Your New Favorite
Welcome to HAPPY EVERY HOUR, your go-to hub for all things NA (non-alcoholic). We review alcohol-free beers, ciders, wines, spirits, RTDs (ready-to-drink), and share NA cocktail recipes that taste just as good—if not better—than the boozy originals. Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or just taking a break, this is where great taste meets zero proof.
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