Author: Contributor to The Sober Curator

My addiction was a drunken, cocaine-fueled weekend that stretched across years, a house party with no music left and no one real enough stay. It was sharing beds with strangers That was mistaken for connection. It was pushing away the ones who tried to reach me through the fog. It was my ego on the throne and my spirit bound, gagged by denial. Addiction didn’t want love it wanted me alone. It drank all the liquor the night before, knowing I’d need it in the morning. Leaving me dry-mouthed, shaking, sick. I hadn’t even opened my eyes, and I was…

All my life, I’ve felt haunted. Haunted by ancestors past, whose abuse would have devastating effects for generations. The two people responsible for raising me would each be plagued by their respective familial traumas— shadowed by the demons of addiction and mental illness for their— and my— entire life. I stood in my mother’s house, the house I grew up in, and I shivered. For the second time in five years, I was confronting the not-so-friendly ghosts of my childhood; complex memories wafted in and out of every dusty nook and cranny. An only child, now essentially an orphan (one…

A cocktease pours a glass of waterCocktail he would call this drinkSipped from a tale too tallthat the man himself couldn’t trick his ACCTraced out the name of a long lost lovein the frost ‘neath the rim where his lips would meetBubbles from bastardsPhantom fizzforced his beguiled cheeks to freezeNeon lights by the bar stayed sharplike an image fixed in post for screensNot a familiar glimpse—that alone pulled the rug from beneath his feetJukebox screams Sweet Carolinewith a bah bah bahHe’s counting sheepFire sparks in a lonely cornerSprinklers drench his cotton sheetsTaking coverhe dips downand rests his temple upon a…

For any patient dealing with fractures, dislocations, or concussions, recovering from a stroke, or trying to overcome addiction, rehabilitation is a part of recovery. The goal of rehab is to help patients regain, maintain, or improve physical, mental, or cognitive abilities that they need for daily life. According to WHO, rehab helps children, adults, and seniors to be as independent as possible in everyday activities. Rehab after injury, medical condition, or addiction can be hard. Pain, discomfort, the need for consistent effort even when progress seems slow, and the mental hurdle of adapting to a new routine while your body…

Why I Keep Telling This Story (and Why I Always Will): If you watched my recent speech, first—thank you. Thank you for caring enough to show up and listen to a conversation that, for far too long, has been whispered about, ignored, or misunderstood. I opened that talk with a very real moment—my six-year-old daughter getting sick in the middle of the night. Not the glamorous kind of storytelling kickoff, I know. But that moment reminded me of something so important: I used to be the guy you couldn’t call in the middle of the night. And now, I’m not…

TikTok has taken the world by storm, with millions of people sharing short, creative videos daily. Its algorithm makes it easier for videos to go viral, offering endless opportunities for sober creators to grow their audience. Whether it’s dances, challenges, or fun tips, TikTok is a platform where creativity shines. However, if you want to make your TikTok videos unique and stand out to the sober and recovery-based communities, CapCut desktop video editor is the perfect tool. This free video editor offers powerful features like text-to-speech, voice changer, background removal, and many more, which help you create engaging and shareable videos. In…

Welcome to the sober HR Lady’s corner, where all questions are good questions, and nothing is off limits!  As a person in recovery who is proudly recovering out loud in both my personal and professional life, I often get questions about how to navigate it all. I know that it can feel overwhelming at the beginning. When I first got sober, I had a second pending DUI, was navigating outpatient treatment, getting meeting slips signed, worried about a job I loved, and (feel free to laugh) still trying to figure out how to date among all of this mess. Here…

Let’s celebrate Sober St. Patrick’s Day! Check out this throwback from Tonix Mocktails circa 2021, powering up an oh-so-creative mocktail called “We are the Luckiest” to celebrate our love of #QUITLIT, Sober St. Patrick’s Day, and the Reading Rainbow Theme Song. 🤣 We love, love, love the book “We Are the Luckiest” by Laura McKowen. This one’s an ode to you, Laura! What’s in the mix with the “We are the Luckiest” Inspired Lucky Lemonade Mocktail by Nik Popkow @Tonix.Mocktails this week? Ingredients: “This is the singular, hard truth I come up against every day: I am the only one responsible for my experience.” — Laura McKowen, We…

Waking Up to the Truth: My Skin Was Screaming for Help  I used to think makeup could cover everything—dark circles, acne, dryness—but no concealer could hide the damage alcohol was doing to my skin. My skincare routine was nonexistent, my diet was a disaster, and my hydration levels were practically zero. I’d fall asleep in a full face of makeup, barely drink water, and fuel my body with Captain and Coke instead of real nourishment. My skin wasn’t just dull; it was desperate for change. What I didn’t realize was that the real glow-up wouldn’t come from expensive serums or…

Wearing green and traditionally indulging in alcoholic beverages are staples of St. Patrick’s Day, a holiday celebrated every March 17th that pays homage to Ireland’s patron saint. This day, which is deeply rooted in Irish history and Christianity, has blossomed into a global celebration of Irish culture. The festivities include dazzling parades, an abundance of green attire, and, due to the lifting of Lenten restrictions, the customary enjoyment of alcohol. However, the essence of the holiday goes beyond alcohol, focusing on celebrating Irish heritage, exploring its rich culture, and enjoying the company of friends and family. For those in sobriety,…

“This is it; this is the end.” The warning was sudden and clear. It wasn’t a bellow nor a whisper, just a matter-of-fact voice in my head. I’d say that it startled me, but I’m not sure I even registered it until after I reflexively countered. “No way, I’m not ready yet!” Though I had no idea where the voice came from, I knew it referred to my drinking. It was 1 AM in Moab, Utah, the first night of a 10-day trip through the southwest. I’d had one beer at dinner—a low-alcohol beer, at that—and yet I’d woken up…

When I first got sober, I had two sugar daddies. I had quit my job at a law school where I spent most of my time in the bathroom sitting on the toilet, crushing lines on top of a bar review book. My solution to finding another job was posting a headless picture of myself on Craigslist in heels and red garters. “Sugar Daddy Wanted.” I met two nice men. Omar, the Iranian, and Harry, the Orthodox Jew. It was two weeks after my very first meeting that Harry and I had our sixth date downtown at The Georgian. He…

sunrise sobriety soul by soul gathering together as one in a room with no walls and waves that gently greet the morning sun wayfarers trudging the road to happy destiny day after dutiful day some stringing together hours other stringing years all as one one for all on the beach at popoia breathing new day air oblivious to things that can’t be changed searching for wisdom in this one hour of spiritual healing that is being passed one to another in the most gentle…

Sam Lansky’s Broken People explores a young man’s search for healing from self-induced anxieties driven by a constant, judging inner dialogue. This semi-autobiographical novel shines a light on human vulnerability—an honest and often humorous look at self-discovery’s messy, complicated process. Doing the math, the real-life Sam would have been around seven years sober when this book was published. The story centers around Sam, a young writer trying to navigate a history of addiction, heartbreak, deep emptiness, and self-loathing. At a party, he overhears about a mysterious shaman who claims to perform “open-soul surgery”—a healing technique that promises to erase emotional…

Rewired by Erica Spiegelman challenges traditional addiction recovery paradigms and offers a fresh perspective tailored to the modern age. Spiegelman is a licensed substance abuse counselor and is recovering from substance abuse herself. The book purports to provide a new, holistic way to navigate recovery. She has a thriving counseling practice and seems to have helped many recover.   One of the things I liked about the book was the conversational tone and honesty about her journey. The writing is clever and relatable. Spiegelman acknowledges that recovery is not one size fits all. I find that true for this book as…

Recovery is about rebuilding balance in your life and restoring your physical and mental health while creating healthy routines. Or what I like to call the Re-Birth of the Self. I have worked in this field for seven years and have been in recovery for 16 years. With all the tools we are taught regarding our newfound health in recovery, there is something I have not heard discussed: the topic of Light. It has been long overlooked not only in the field of addiction recovery but in the medical field at large. I am here to shed light, if you…

What is Soba Golf? It’s the Intersection of Sobriety, Wellness, and Golf. At its core, Soba Golf is a wellness company that bridges the gap between the sober or sober-curious individual and the game of golf. It is a community where like-minded people come together to share their love for golf while prioritizing mental health, physical wellness, and ongoing recovery. Golf has long been associated with social drinking—whether it’s grabbing a beer with friends after a round or engaging in the casual drinking culture that surrounds many courses (we’re not saying there’s anything wrong with that). But for individuals who are sober…

Fear didn’t think that I would show up today, But I did, and I’m here Hate thought I’d relate, but it’s the energy of love in which I resonate Anger tried to linger, but I sought out my peace Self doubt came about So I had to heal, let go, release Impatience tried to rush me, I spitefully decided to take my time Insecurity tried to break in So I had to reinforce my mind Trauma tried to hide in the shadows Til’ I decided to shed light on my past Uncertainty said to freeze, But my will and my…

I know that it’s hard Drinking for the day like it’s no tomorrow Through happiness and sorrow Drinking for the day like you don’t want to see tomorrow Or see your scars You fear what you feel when the bottle is gone I know that it’s hard Wake up and take a shot like it’s Tylenol Drown out the pain Make me feel sane Try to bury my demons Thinking maybe I’ll change But they got the reigns Saying, “Take just one more shot.” Until it’s all out of range Til’ you find yourself slipping because your body can’t hang…

Creating a home environment that truly supports you is very important for anyone on the journey to sobriety. The good news is that even the tiniest, most thoughtful changes to your living space can lead to amazing transformations that promote healing, clarity, and a lively mindset. We often think that simply putting the bar cart away or hiding the liquor cabinet is enough. Still, if we’re being honest, those innocent-looking items lurking around the home can have a lot more influence over your mood and cravings than you might think. So rather than just going through the motions and pretending…

Models Strut Their Stuff in Support of a Cause By Contributor to The Sober Curator: TeQoa Griffith Last Sunday, I had the pleasure of covering a runway show in New York City that was more than just a fashion event. It was a powerful celebration of resilience, beauty, and the human spirit. The event aimed to raise awareness and funds for breast cancer, featuring a group of inspiring models who had all undergone breast amputations. The sponsors played a crucial role in making the event successful, providing financial support and raising awareness about their important work. The Break Free Foundation holds a show…

SPEAK OUT! SPEAK LOUD!: The following is a piece written and submitted by Gary Schwind. This is the section of our website where our readers and contributors take center stage, sharing their transformative sobriety journeys. I’m new to the sober lifestyle, with less than a year of alcohol-free days. (I do know the exact number. I write it next to the date at the top of every journal entry.) However, while I can’t boast several years of sobriety, I have learned some things that I think are especially useful to those who are early on their journey of sobriety or those…

Traveling is usually a great adventure—a dance with the unfamiliar that invites us to embrace new sights and sounds. Yet, for those on the path of sobriety, this exhilarating journey can hold its challenges. The allure of exploration often masks the lurking triggers and temptations that can arise in new places, which makes it all too easy to feel lost or adrift without the comfort of familiar support systems. This is why staying connected while traveling is vital for your recovery. In a way, it’s like carrying a fragment of home in your heart—a comforting reminder that the love and…

Let me break this down for you; here’s how this works. FIND THE TRAILERS, REVIEWS & SO MUCH MORE!​ Welcome to The Mindful Binge at The Sober Curator, where we explore TV series that intricately weave addiction, recovery, and mental health into their compelling storylines. Imagine us as your diligent, bee-zy TV series binge-watchers or the lively guardians of an alcohol-free visual storytelling sanctuary. Have you ever judged a TV series by its title or poster? In our buzzing hive, we’ve meticulously curated shows that delve into these themes, allowing you to flutter through captivating TV series displays. Our digital…

It’s Movie Night with The Sober Curator & The Sobees Rule the Silver Screen. Movie Night with The Sober Curator 📺🛋️ Welcome to Movie Night with The Sober Curator, where we explore movies that intricately weave addiction, recovery, and mental health into their compelling storylines. Imagine us as your diligent, bee-zy movie concierges or the lively guardians of an alcohol-free visual storytelling silver screen. Have you ever judged a movie by its title or poster? In our buzzing hive, we’ve meticulously curated movies and documentaries that delve into these themes, allowing you to flutter through our captivating movie hive. Our…

British Adventurer, Mountaineer, and Guide Oliver Browne and Recovery Coaches Mary Tilson and Carrie May are teaming up to host an awe-inspiring epic guided adventure to Everest Base Camp from April 1 – 12, 2025. Oliver, Mary, and Carrie are all in long-term recovery and share a passion for creating transformational off-grid experiences for others. If ever there was to be a bucket list destination for the sober, adventurous spirit, Everest Base Camp would top the list. This expedition epitomizes the power of challenging oneself, resiliency, and stepping out of your comfort zone. Designed for individuals in recovery, recovery allies,…

Last month, I had the pleasure of attending a preview of a play called Shower Chair before Ben Fallaci and his producers took it to the Edinburgh Fringe. The play is an autobiographical performance that charts the protagonist’s coming of age in Cape Cod and the influence that substances and problematic friendships had on his journey. I was lucky enough to interview Ben about the play, his artistic process, and his sobriety. Read on to find out about Ben’s experience of being sober in London (hint: it’s not always easy), what it’s like to get naked on stage, and his…

In the last couple of years, around 5.4 million Americans decided to make a fresh start overseas, trading in the hustle of life in the U.S. for new adventures abroad. Whether it’s the lure of different cultures or just a change of pace, living outside the U.S. offers people a chance to explore new horizons and experience life from a different perspective. From sunny beaches to charming European cities, Americans are saying yes to the opportunity to hit the reset button and build a new chapter in exciting locales around the world. But with that excitement comes a challenge for those in…

In The Hope Dealer—A Recovery Story by Drew Broadhurst, we dive deep into David’s life and struggles as he navigates the turbulent waters of addiction, recovery, and the tenuous path back to normalcy. This short film showcases the raw and often heart-wrenching journey of addiction and the glimmers of hope that keep individuals moving forward. Trigger Warning: This short film may be sensitive material for those in early recovery. A Card Game as a Metaphor for Life The opening scene starts with Rosie engaging in a card game with her stuffed animals, which becomes a powerful metaphor throughout the film.…

Since joining The Sober Curator, I’ve become increasingly aware of the drinking-related cultural differences between the U.S. and the U.K. It’s not so much that drinkers over here are “worse” or that more British people suffer from alcohol use disorder and addiction. It’s more that the attitude and societal view of drinking are different. I don’t think it’d be unfair to say it’s pretty toxic over here. The U.S. seems to have a bit more awareness about the harmful impacts of drinking alcohol, or they are at least less guilty of normalizing harmful drinking, so there appears to be more…