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When No One’s Watching: A Soundtrack for the Spaces We Don’t Talk About

Jason MayoBy Jason MayoFebruary 12, 20264 Mins Read
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Album Review: Civil Brother – When No One’s Watching

Released Friday, February 6, Civil Brother’s When No One’s Watching is now available on Spotify, Apple Music, and all major streaming platforms.

The first time I heard the title track, I didn’t just listen — I stopped.

Within the opening lines, Ross Hopman delivers a gut punch:

“When no one’s watching am I even safe from me.
I’m the great director of a movie no one’s meant to see.
I can still fuck up and still be loved.
When no one’s watching can I be who I’m meant to be?”

That song brought me to tears the first time I heard it. Not because it’s dramatic. Not because it’s loud. But because it’s honest.

And that honesty sets the tone for the entire album.

Civil Brother — the indie singer-songwriter project of Ross Hopman — has created something rare with When No One’s Watching. This is an album that exists in a space so raw and fragile it almost feels intrusive to listen. It will tear your heart to pieces and then, patiently, put them back together one by one.

Listening through the lens of recovery, it hits differently.

There’s a version of me — red light on in my mom’s basement, lava lamp glowing, wine coolers sweating on the floor — who would have played this on repeat while romanticizing my own sadness. I would have used it as a soundtrack for self-pity and depression.

But sober? The same exact music feels like hope.

That’s not easy to do.

Hopman manages to blend the wisdom of John Prine, the eerie edge of The Shins, the heart-forward honesty of Joe Pug, and the haunting resonance of The Lumineers — yet it never feels derivative. It feels intentional. Familiar, but fresh. Beautifully polished, yet perfectly imperfect.

There’s nothing flashy here. And that’s part of its strength.

The musicianship shows restraint — one of the hardest things for an artist to do. Every layer feels purposeful. The clean picking and chord progressions pick at emotional scabs you thought had healed. At times, electric guitar breaks the tension in just the right way. The soloing on “Aluminum Bins” is tight and surprisingly crunchy — almost Jack White or early Black Keys in tone. You almost want him to push it further, but you also understand why he doesn’t. This isn’t an album about shredding. It’s about revealing.

And that’s what makes it powerful.

This isn’t just a collection of songs. It’s less a conversation and more a confession — the kind that eventually forces conversation. The kind people are often too scared to start.

The themes are universal: love, grief, regret, self-reflection. The things we pack away in the darkest corners. The thoughts we don’t say out loud.

But Hopman did.

I don’t know if healing was his intention, but I’d bet that putting these songs into the world did something for him. And there’s no doubt they’ll do something for others. Because when art is this honest, identification becomes inevitable. And when we identify, we realize we’re not alone.

The track “Never Been a Storm” might be the emotional center of the album. The lyrics feel like something you’d hear from someone sharing at a 12-step meeting — or maybe even a moral tale in a children’s book:

“The pain it always seems to last.
Progress fading, I want to hide away.
This time I’m gonna stay the path
’Cause there’s never been a storm that doesn’t pass.”

Those aren’t the words of someone glamorizing the darkness. They’re the words of someone who’s walked through it and is finally choosing to stay. The music underneath — more upbeat, more driving — creates a beautiful and unexpected contrast to the heaviness of the lyrics. The juxtaposition works.

Hopman writes with the self-awareness of someone decades into recovery, yet somehow still channels the raw emotion of someone who just hit bottom. That’s a gift — and a weight.

As someone with almost sixteen years sober, this album took me back to the early days: the shame, the regret, the remorse. But it also brought back that fragile, electric hope — the kind you’re terrified to believe in but desperate to hold onto.

If you’re struggling and don’t know where to begin, this album might be a place to start.

Just breathe.

And press play.

It’s my hope that Civil Brother is only beginning to tell this story. If my life were a movie, I’d be proud to have this as part of its soundtrack.

When No One’s Watching
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ALBUM UPDATE ALBUM UPDATE WEEEEEEEEEEE. LOVE YOU! ‘When No One’s Watching’ available everywhere Feb 6. Presave link here: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/civilbrother/when-no-ones-watching #folkmusic #newmusic #sober #recovery #fypシ

♬ When No Ones Watching unreleased – Civil Brother Music
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Music does what words sometimes can’t. @Civil Brother Music new album “When No One Is Watching” hit me deep. If you’re feeling something and don’t have language for it yet… start here. #recovery #sober #newmusic #mentalhealth #foryoupage

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Jason is the author of In Case of Emergency, Break Childhood: A Gen Xer’s Survival Guide to Anxiety, Addiction, and Accidental Enlightenment, a raw, funny, and deeply human memoir about growing up, falling apart, and finding redemption. His work has earned national recognition, including being named to Working Mother’s “25 Dads Who Rock” list alongside Barack Obama, Jay-Z, and Will Smith.

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