In this episode, host Alysse Bryson and co-host Tamar Routly join Sober Curator contributors Amy Liz Harrison and Dr. Sarah Michaud for a thoughtful, spoiler-free review of the Amazon Prime adaptation of the young adult novel “We Were Liars.”
But this conversation is more than a show breakdown. It’s an insightful discussion about addiction, family patterns, the illusions of wealth and the excitement and meaning behind living a sober lifestyle. Whether you’re considering recovery, searching for community or looking for perspectives on intergenerational healing, you’ll find valuable takeaways here.
Why “We Were Liars”? Why Now?
“We wanted to talk about this because it’s not just a show — it’s a mirror,” Bryson says. This episode investigates why “We Were Liars” resonates so strongly with people in recovery and those who want to live authentically.
Set among a privileged, secret-ridden family on a private island, the series serves as a starting point to discuss how addiction, trauma and power can persist in the most “picture-perfect” environments. It’s an honest look at the reasons for choosing sobriety and the emotional work it takes to heal.
The Sober Lens: Missing Out or Gaining Everything?
From the beginning, the hosts set the tone: Sobriety isn’t about missing out; it’s about finally remembering who you are. Rather than focus solely on the series’ plot, the conversation touches on how growing up with control, secrecy and expectations affects self-worth. Recovery, they reveal, is about claiming autonomy.
Dr. Michaud notes, “You think about money meaning freedom, but throughout the show, the real message is: money can be a prison.” The idea that privilege protects against pain is dismantled, underscoring the liberation that comes with living honestly.
Key Takeaways and Insights
Secrets as Prison Walls
- The podcast highlights how the Sinclair family’s secrets echo the dual lives often led by those struggling with addiction.
- “Everybody is dismissing their real self to present this image,” Michaud says. The emotional price of maintaining appearances is evident in both the show and in recovery.
The Myth of Wealth
- The hosts discuss how wealth can actually lead to emotional isolation rather than freedom.
- “They were all bankrupt spiritually,” Routly says, pointing out the emptiness behind the perfection.
Sobriety in Real Life and On Screen
- The character of Carrie Sinclair, a sister with a decade of sobriety, is praised as a rare and relatable portrayal of recovery. Her struggle to access an online AA meeting is universally understood by those who have reached for support in challenging family environments.
- Harrison shares: “For me, the moment where she finally seeks a meeting, and something interrupts it … it’s a reminder that even after years, you still have to actively fight for your sobriety.”
Generational Dysfunction and Breaking the Cycle
- The episode examines how silence, control and competition are passed down through generations, trapping families in cycles of pain.
- “You turn out to be your environment,” Bryson says, sparking a conversation on the courage to start over and model something better.
The Joy of Sobriety
- Sobriety is framed not as loss but as empowerment, truth and lasting fulfillment. The guests share how recovery lets them live as they really are, rather than according to family histories or addiction.
Why Are They Excited About Sobriety?
The message is clear: Sobriety is freedom, clarity and connection — especially connection to one’s true self. For Bryson, Routly, Harrison and Michaud, living sober isn’t just abstaining from alcohol. It’s about having real fun, real joy and experiencing genuine relationships.
This episode isn’t just for people in recovery. It’s for anyone hoping to break negative family cycles, face the truth with courage and live fully awake.
As Bryson says: “Getting sober matters. But staying sober — that’s where the real magic, the promises, the freedom, happens.”
Real Talk for Real People
What sets this episode apart is its vulnerability. The hosts and guests do not shy away from old pain — and they demonstrate, with humor and candor, that recovery requires ongoing effort but brings immense value.
If you have ever felt alone at a family gathering, wondered why you drank or dreamed of a different way to live, this episode is a source of encouragement and support.
Final Thoughts
Episode 27 of The Sober Curator is essential listening for anyone who wants sober inspiration and honest talk about healing. It’s an invitation to choose recovery, face family secrets and live boldly and joyfully — without substances.
Getting sober is one thing—but staying sober? That’s where the real adventure begins.
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In this lively roundtable, The Sober Curator crew dives deep into Mel Robbins’ viral book ”The Let Them Theory ” — and the controversy swirling around it. Hosts Alysse Bryson and Tamar Routly welcome guests Dr. Sarah Michaud, Megan Swan, Tony Harte, Carolyn Bunn and Amy Liz Harrison for a spirited discussion on whether ”Let Them” is really a theory, how it fits into codependency work, and what it misses for people in recovery. Expect strong opinions, a healthy dose of sass and more than a few laughs as the group rates the book and explores what boundary-setting means in sober life.
Timestamps:
[00:00] – Dr. Sarah Michaud opens with a critical question: Can people actually ”let them”?
[01:13] – Show intros: Meet The Sober Curator Podcast hosts and this week's panel of sober experts.
[02:56] – What is Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory” all about? Pop culture, controversy and viral moments.
[05:06] – Meet the guests! Panelists weigh in on their first impressions.
[08:56] – Dr. Sarah and Tony Harte debate: is this really a theory, or just marketing?
[11:05] – Copyright, tattoos and the story behind ”Let Them”: Is it original?
[15:17] – Can everyday people really apply ”The Let Them Theory” in real life — or in recovery?
[18:37] – Amy Liz Harrison shares a personal story about friendships, boundaries and people-pleasing.
[20:19] – Apologize, back off, celebrate progress? The panel critiques Mel's proposed solution.
[24:00] – Megan Swan: ”This book isn't for people with deep trauma” — who is the real audience?
[33:24] – Alysse Bryson on how sober circles are NOT the norm for most people.
[34:53] – Indie publishing, bestsellers and grandiosity: Should we trademark ”Let Me”?
[44:12] – Put a Sobee on it! The panel gives their Sobee Scores for Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory”
Resources & Links:
–The Sober Curator: Rethinking Codependency and “The Let Them Theory” | Leaving CrazyTown
–Book: ”The Let Them Theory”
–Alcohol + Substance Use Disorder Guide
–Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide
–LBGTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide
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Sobriety isn’t the end of the party—it’s just the start of a better one. Hosted by Alysse Bryson, media powerhouse and sobriety’s ultimate hype woman, and joined by Sober Curator contributors, The Sober Curator Podcast* delivers bold convos, pop culture deep dives, and zero-proof living that doesn’t suck. Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or just looking for good vibes without the hangover, we’ve got you covered. Subscribe now—because getting sober matters, staying sober matters more.
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*The Sober Curator Podcast is a space for open and honest conversations about sobriety, recovery, and alcohol-free living. While we celebrate all paths to a sober lifestyle, some topics discussed may be sensitive or triggering for certain listeners. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you’re in recovery or exploring sobriety, please take care while listening and seek support from trusted professionals as needed.
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