Sober living isn’t just about leaving substances behind—it’s about discovering a new richness in life, embracing humor, connection, and even the messiness of true emotion. In episode 15 of the Sober Curator Podcast, hosts Alysse Bryson and Tamar Routly sit down with author and advocate Travis Sackett to explore what happens after we put the bottle down, how we heal from life’s painful curveballs, and why community matters more than ever.
Travis Sackett brings more than a decade of sobriety, a published memoir (“My Life with Karma”), and brutally honest insights into the conversation. His journey is marked by transformation, including moving from a very public, stigmatizing criminal case to becoming a harm reduction specialist, public speaker, and, most importantly, a present father and partner.
Travis stands out by his willingness to redefine how people see “addicts”—not as cautionary tales, but as people capable of profound change and advocacy. He speaks openly about how writing his story became an act of regaining his voice when the media and court system had taken it away.
When Loss Hits Hard: Grieving Our Four-Legged Family
A core theme in Travis’s story—and this episode—is the profound loss he felt when Karma, his beloved rescue dog and anchor throughout early recovery, passed away. Both Alysse and Travis share the deep, unique grief that comes with losing a pet, especially after experiencing the clarity and vulnerability sobriety brings.
Travis doesn’t shy away from describing his heartbreak and how critical it was to process this kind of pain without returning to old habits. As he puts it: “If you can feel that kind of pain, it shows you how much love you’re capable of giving and having—one can’t exist without the other.”
This raw honesty resonates with many listeners and highlights a key point: Recovery gives us a depth of feeling, both beautiful and hard, and learning to move through grief is a skill that should be honored rather than hidden.
Humor, Music, and the Joys of Sober Life
The episode isn’t all heavy, though. From hilarious stories about yard gnome mischief to recounting personal theme songs (think Dave Matthews Band, Celine Dion, and Chumbawamba’s “Tubthumping”), the hosts and Travis celebrate sober culture’s quirky and joyful sides.
These moments of levity aren’t just filler—they’re proof that sobriety doesn’t end fun. Whether sharing awkward fan-girl moments outside Dave Matthews’ house or swapping tattoo stories, humor becomes an essential coping skill and a testament to the richness of sober living.
Another central theme from this episode centers around the power of vulnerability, especially for men in recovery. Travis urges others, “Machismo kept me stuck. Vulnerability is a natural part of what we are… We need that connection to thrive.” His story is a clarion call to anyone (regardless of gender) who feels pressure to keep hard feelings to themselves, reminding us that true strength lies in connection and honesty, not self-reliance or isolation.
Building a Community—One Story at a Time
The hosts and Travis highlight the importance of sharing stories in recovery. Whether it’s through publishing a memoir, connecting over a shared love of dogs and tattoos, or just showing up for others in an online sober community, these moments of connection are how stigma is smashed and hope is seeded.
As Alysse puts it, “People reading other people’s stories, hearing other people’s stories, and feeling that connection—that is what binds this community together.”
Ready for more real talk and curated recovery magic? Check out new episodes and resources at The Sober Curator. And remember, as Alysse says with a wink, “We’re way more fun than your ex’s drunk texts.”
#QUITLIT BOOK REVIEW: My Life with Karma by Travis Sackett
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In this lively roundtable, The Sober Curator crew dives deep into Mel Robbins’ viral book ”The Let Them Theory ” — and the controversy swirling around it. Hosts Alysse Bryson and Tamar Routly welcome guests Dr. Sarah Michaud, Megan Swan, Tony Harte, Carolyn Bunn and Amy Liz Harrison for a spirited discussion on whether ”Let Them” is really a theory, how it fits into codependency work, and what it misses for people in recovery. Expect strong opinions, a healthy dose of sass and more than a few laughs as the group rates the book and explores what boundary-setting means in sober life.
Timestamps:
[00:00] – Dr. Sarah Michaud opens with a critical question: Can people actually ”let them”?
[01:13] – Show intros: Meet The Sober Curator Podcast hosts and this week's panel of sober experts.
[02:56] – What is Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory” all about? Pop culture, controversy and viral moments.
[05:06] – Meet the guests! Panelists weigh in on their first impressions.
[08:56] – Dr. Sarah and Tony Harte debate: is this really a theory, or just marketing?
[11:05] – Copyright, tattoos and the story behind ”Let Them”: Is it original?
[15:17] – Can everyday people really apply ”The Let Them Theory” in real life — or in recovery?
[18:37] – Amy Liz Harrison shares a personal story about friendships, boundaries and people-pleasing.
[20:19] – Apologize, back off, celebrate progress? The panel critiques Mel's proposed solution.
[24:00] – Megan Swan: ”This book isn't for people with deep trauma” — who is the real audience?
[33:24] – Alysse Bryson on how sober circles are NOT the norm for most people.
[34:53] – Indie publishing, bestsellers and grandiosity: Should we trademark ”Let Me”?
[44:12] – Put a Sobee on it! The panel gives their Sobee Scores for Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory”
Resources & Links:
–The Sober Curator: Rethinking Codependency and “The Let Them Theory” | Leaving CrazyTown
–Book: ”The Let Them Theory”
–Alcohol + Substance Use Disorder Guide
–Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide
–LBGTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide
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