From Blackouts to Boundaries: Suzanne Warye’s Sober Shift for Moms

If you’ve ever drafted a list of moderation rules — no drinks on Tuesdays, only wine, never tequila — you know the quiet contortion act that props up a relationship with alcohol. In our conversation with creator and author Suzanne Warye, those rules get exposed for what they are: a workaround keeping the real question at bay. Not “How can I drink right?” but “What if alcohol isn’t a privilege at all?”  

Suzanne’s story resists the old script. She didn’t wake up inside a classic bottom. She woke up inside a life she valued — new baby, career, marriage — and realized she could protect it now. That choice reframes sobriety as agency, not exile. It also unlocks the slow repair of self-trust. As she puts it, the outside can look fine for years, but the inside ledger tells the truth.    

There’s a cultural script to unlearn, too. We swim in alcohol. Baby showers with champagne toasts. First birthdays with hard seltzers in coolers. Rosé at water parks. When “take-it-or-leave-it” drinking is held up as normal, everyone else ends up chasing a unicorn. Suzanne calls this out plainly — and with humor.    

Gen X women will recognize another motif in this episode: the boundary revolution of midlife. As hormones shift and patience thins, many of us start saying the quiet part out loud. We leave early. We Irish-goodbye. We give fewer explanations and fewer F’s. It’s not meanness, it’s clarity; a nervous system calibrated by experience and, for some, by sobriety.    

Suzanne’s clarity didn’t arrive in a vacuum. It grew in community. She describes sober spaces where moms can name the daily frictions — partners who still drink, the spike of perimenopausal heat, the inevitable shame spirals — and be met with nods instead of raised eyebrows. “We’re only as sick as our secrets,” Tamar reminds us. Connection is medicine.    

This is the deeper promise of an alcohol-free life. Not perfect feelings (perimenopause laughs in perfect), but the capacity to feel without numbing — and then to metabolize those feelings in conversation with people who get it. Community doesn’t just help you not drink; it helps you stay awake to your actual life.  

Along the way, we dismantle the moderation myth. Rules and swaps may work for a weekend, but they keep alcohol on the pedestal and you in the blame seat. Suzanne’s reframing flips the casting: remove the halo from the substance and put the agency back in your hands. That’s not punishment — it’s freedom with receipts.  

And because this is The Sober Curator, there’s pop culture joy, too: a “Goonies” Little People set makes a star turn in Tchotchke of the Week, because sobriety is not a vibe killer; it’s a vibe curator.    

  

If you’re a sober-curious mom, here are three invitations from the episode:  

1. Choose before you have to. You don’t need a dramatic loss to justify a better life.    

2. Find your room. Whether it’s a Zoom circle or a local meetup, pick a community where your honesty lands softly.    

3. Retire the rules. The more energy spent controlling alcohol, the less energy available for what you actually love.    

  

Sober doesn’t mean smaller. It means more time, more trust, more you. If that sounds like relief, start with this episode — and stay for the people who will remind you you’re not alone.  

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