“Give people permission not to drink, and watch the trip transform.” That’s the quiet thesis humming beneath Ryan Lee’s story — a story that begins in tech sales and a hospital bed, and then sprints toward fresh air, steep trails and a passport full of second chances.
Ryan didn’t just walk away from a lucrative career; he walked toward himself. Early sobriety peeled away the “I’m fine, I’m performing” armor, exposing a truth many high achievers recognize: survival isn’t the same as fulfillment. “I decided to quit that job… I need fulfillment now, not just survival,” he recalls, describing the moment the old patterns — overwork, stimulants to push through — had to go.
Travel arrived as both salve and structure. New places, long hikes, a beginner’s mind in motion — these became an ethical replacement for the thrill-seeking of addiction. Instead of nightlife, there was sunrise. Instead of numbing, there was presence. “It’s been a big key to my sobriety… being in a new place, going on amazing hikes… it scratches the same itch,” he says.
The business model emerged from a bad group trip: alcohol derailed the vibe, and the solution felt obvious in hindsight — design the same adventures, but sober. That choice reframed everything. He interviews every first-time traveler. Not to gatekeep, but to protect the experience. One misaligned personality can torpedo a week. “I can design the most amazing itinerary. But if there’s one shithead in the group… it ruins it for everyone,” he says, deadpan and correct.
The result is Capsule Adventures: all-inclusive, zero-proof expeditions where logistics fade and connection takes center stage. Airport pickup to drop-off. Guides, tickets, transport, meals, lodging — handled. The days are full: hikes, markets, summits, swims. And there’s built-in free time — because presence needs pockets of quiet, too.
Community is the real itinerary. When everyone agrees to the same container — no substances, shared goals — the group gels faster. Strangers turn into travel buddies; sometimes into future roommates on trips Ryan doesn’t even lead. (He’s fine with that. Mostly.) “Provide people a network of sober travel buddies,” he says. Connection is the point. The scenery is the bonus.
If you’re picturing a quiet retreat with daily meetings, recalibrate. Ryan’s trips are adventurous. Machu Picchu started small; now he’s taking bigger groups. Dream boards include the Amazon and big summits like Kilimanjaro. Demographically, it skews ~60% women, median age early 30s — a reflection of safety and vibe as much as fitness. “No creepy-dude energy” is an unspoken feature of the model.
There’s also a five-year vision: empower a guide team and open a nature-based recovery center — think Puerto Rico, trails for days — because early sobriety and outdoor immersion are a potent combo. “Being in nature… sparked something within me,” he says. Put differently: your nervous system can exhale when your phone can’t grab a signal.
The practicals are delightfully nerdy. AirPods. A food scale for macro phases. Sometimes an Instant Pot — especially in high-altitude cities like Cusco, where the boiling point drops and lentils stage a protest. Packing advice? Ditch the clunky boots; trail runners (or legit adventure sandals) save energy and joints. If the U.S. military says a pound on your foot feels like ten on your back, why strap ankle anvils to vacation? Exactly.
Maybe the lesson isn’t “travel more.” Maybe it’s “travel aligned.” Vet the vibe. Choose presence over performance. Snap your photos, then post at night so your brain stays on the mountain instead of the metrics. And if you’re sober — or just sober-curious about your next trip — consider this your permission slip. The opposite of addiction is connection, and the world is very, very wide.
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[00:00] – Dr. Sarah Michaud opens with a critical question: Can people actually ”let them”?
[01:13] – Show intros: Meet The Sober Curator Podcast hosts and this week's panel of sober experts.
[02:56] – What is Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory” all about? Pop culture, controversy and viral moments.
[05:06] – Meet the guests! Panelists weigh in on their first impressions.
[08:56] – Dr. Sarah and Tony Harte debate: is this really a theory, or just marketing?
[11:05] – Copyright, tattoos and the story behind ”Let Them”: Is it original?
[15:17] – Can everyday people really apply ”The Let Them Theory” in real life — or in recovery?
[18:37] – Amy Liz Harrison shares a personal story about friendships, boundaries and people-pleasing.
[20:19] – Apologize, back off, celebrate progress? The panel critiques Mel's proposed solution.
[24:00] – Megan Swan: ”This book isn't for people with deep trauma” — who is the real audience?
[33:24] – Alysse Bryson on how sober circles are NOT the norm for most people.
[34:53] – Indie publishing, bestsellers and grandiosity: Should we trademark ”Let Me”?
[44:12] – Put a Sobee on it! The panel gives their Sobee Scores for Mel Robbins' ”The Let Them Theory”
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–LBGTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide
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