Classy Problems is a daily post of thinking in motion by Dan T. Rogers. Each post stands alone as a thought-provoking piece, yet together, they create a puzzle of ideas. They invite you to see things from a different angle, rethink what you thought you knew, and explore what’s beyond your current understanding.
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Stories End, Paradoxes Align
As life becomes more complex, it becomes increasingly important to be precise with our thinking; how we frame things.
When we frame in story, we are seeking a conclusion. It’s linear thinking. Beginning, middle, and end.
When we frame in paradox, we are accepting a contradiction. It’s recursive thinking. Beginning, middle, and beginning. All we ever have is a beginning.
Stories are how we close loops to feel safe. They resolve by choosing a side.
Paradoxes are how we hold tension to stay in alignment. They clarify by holding both truths.
Are you looking for a beginning or an end?
Membership vs. Contributorship
Membership is a noun, a label we wear. It’s about belonging by association.
Contributorship is a verb, a role we live. It’s about belonging by participation.
One keeps score of who’s in. The other notices who’s showing up.
You don’t get assigned the title of contributor. You live into it.
Where are you waiting to be included when you have an opportunity to contribute?
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Mistakes Are Demonstrations
When we make a mistake at full speed, we begin to demonstrate that we’re paying attention to how we are putting things in order, or not.
Mistakes, done with intention, show that we’re participating. Missteps become evidence of progress.
Don’t wait on perfection. Perfection is a preference. Mistakes illustrate the willingness to be seen, to learn, to adapt.
Every mistake made in pursuit of intentional impact is a contribution, a demonstration.
Where could you reframe a mistake as a demonstration?
Subjectively Obsess vs. Objectively Assess
Obsession distorts what we see. When we subjectively obsess, we get stuck in emotional loops, fixating on details that keep us stuck.
Objectively assessing, however, means stepping back to evaluate with intention, separating facts from feelings.
Obsession demands urgency. Assessment commands alignment.
One is reactionary, driven by attachment. The other is intentional, driven by understanding.
How do you determine the difference between the feeling of urgency and the actual need for urgency?
The Shallowest Sets the Depth
We won’t go any deeper than the most shallow person in the interaction. This is true for one-on-one interactions as well as groups.
A splaces can only go as deep as its shallowest participant. The highest depth, most shallow, sets the system’s floor.
Going deep doesn’t mean speaking up or coming forward. It’s practicing when to and when not to. Depending on the circumstance, either are equally vulnerable.
Where might you be setting the floor without realizing it?
“I Made the Mistake”
I often say, “I made the mistake of … fill in the blank.”
I made the mistake of listening, paying attention, practicing what I captured.
When I make mistakes at full speed, I frame mistakes as evidence of progress instead of signs of failure. They become learning.
Everything is learning.
When I refuse to capture the mistake, I refuse to capture the learning.
What mistake am I attempting to outrun instead of capturing the learning from?
Keeping Score vs. Keeping Track
Keeping score is a judgment.
Keeping track is a noticing.
Scorekeeping looks for winners and losers. Tracking looks for what’s true.
When we keep score, we ask, “Who’s ahead?”
When we keep track, we ask, “Where are we really?”
Scorekeeping thrives on comparison, credit, and control. Tracking thrives on context, clarity, and contribution.
One feeds the need to be right.
The other invites us to stay aware.
Do you want to right, or do you want to be aware?
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