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Walk Your Talk: Getting Ready For Life And The Artist’s Way With Sober Curator Kate Vitela

Kate VitelaBy Kate VitelaSeptember 8, 20215 Mins Read
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What the hell was I getting ready for?

I look back at the foggy image of myself in my 20s โ€œgetting ready for a night outโ€. I imagine the song lyrics were โ€œIt’s Britney Bitchโ€ roaring in the background while up next on the playlist was Rihanna or Fergie or even a little trance with Tiesto.  Donโ€™t judge. This was the early 2000s and spray tans and sparkly jeans were a thing. There was always a sprinkle of glitter, a dash of desperation, a layer of bronzer, and the act of soaking my entire outfit in the saccharine smell of โ€œPrincess by Vera Wangโ€ to cover up the stench of cheap wine and insecurity.  

When I got sober, I longed for the time I could get ready for a big night and mimic that excitement, creativity, and overall inspirational flow.  After some reflection (okay also known as step work), I realized what I really missed was the creative buzz of putting together pieces. This was often accompanied by booming music, a few girlfriends, and the thrill of the potential photos capturing the night. So why the hell couldnโ€™t I do all those things sober?

Why did I equate a sober life with a mundane wardrobe and never an excuse to dress up?  What became increasingly clear as my brain cleared, was that I missed getting high on the creativity, not the booze. Furthermore, I didnโ€™t need an excuse to get creative and dress up, I just needed an outlet and a new purpose.

Fast Forward to Sober Adulting

Fast forward to sober adulting and a particularly stressful time at work. I turned to the practice of writing my morning pages prompted by the work of Julia Cameron in The Artistโ€™s Way. The premise of the morning pages is to meditate on paper and get your creative thoughts flowing.

Introducing My “Cloffice”

I started writing my morning pages in my cloffice (closet/office) before work. The result? I found myself staring up at my clothing rack and planning outfits. As a healthcare professional, I wasnโ€™t particularly fond of the idea of โ€œgetting creative at workโ€ because you just donโ€™t deviate from the algorithms of medicine unless you wanted to see a person grow a third eyeball or at the very least endure some botched wound care.

I was puzzled at the idea of how I could manifest creativity while going about my nine to forever big-girl job and still save the world while looking fabulous.  And, then it hit me. I was always getting ready for something. I was getting ready to face my life and my day. That was HUGE! There was my creative practice, simply reimagined. I could reproduce the creative high while getting ready for everyday life. Here is the kicker folksโ€ฆ. it didnโ€™t matter what the occasion, what mattered was the process and the way my look & style made me feel! This was a mic drop moment for me.

Getting Ready for Life

So there began my new mantra of โ€œgetting ready for lifeโ€.  Gigantic coffee mug in hand, I spend my mornings contemplating and kicking open the closet door of creativity. What is todayโ€™s vibe? Sporty? Edgy? J Crew or All Saints? Was I going to be wearing Doc Martins or Penny Loafers? Now donโ€™t get me wrong, schedule and logistics and weather play a role in the process. Lots of walking? Vintage sneakers. Rain? A chunky hood. Masking protocolsโ€ฆditch the huge peacock feather earrings and opt for studs. (Because letโ€™s face it โ€ฆmasks rip your earrings off, OUCH!) Needless to say, I find a tremendous amount of joy in getting ready again. Due to my new-fashioned sobriety, I am able to match it with practicality that keeps me from getting fired for violating the dress code.

I Love Love Love Fashion

I love mixing and matching pieces and curating a look. I love digging through my jewelry box and dusting off something random. Being both subtle and bold, frivolous and practical, outrageous and sensible is my jam. I love wearing a $3 shirt with high-end denim and boots from a garage sale. Mostly, I just love the creative process. I love the freedom and versatility. I am so grateful I found my style mojo sans booze. Turns out, there is nothing fabulous or fashionable about being drunk. The whole look is so clichรฉ because drunk never looks good. (๐Ÿ™„)

With my new approach to getting ready for life, I find myself loving both the process and the person as I strut out the door with dignity in one hand and a fabulous bag in the other. Even if my only audience consists of my under-whelmed husband and my cat. I hope you will join me on this journey. Take a peek in my closet. A riff on my treasures.  We can get ready for life and face the world together. Every fashionista needs a sidekickโ€ฆ and my cat gives horrible fashion advice. Are you ready to “Walk Your Talk”? Then I hope you’ll join me in getting ready for life.

Grace & Glam,

 Kate


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  1. Lisa Shaheen on September 10, 2021 8:10 am

    Yessss Kate! Love this!!! Drunk doesn’t look good on anyone!!

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