Are you searching for honest, entertaining and thought-provoking sober lifestyle content? Welcome to the Sober Curator Podcast, where each episode offers fresh takes on sobriety as an empowering lifestyle, not just abstaining from alcohol. In episode 22, hosts Alysse Bryson and Tamar Routly, alongside contributors Dr. Sarah Michaud, Tony Harte, Megan Swan, Amy Liz Harrison and Carolyn Bunn, take a deep dive into Mel Robbins’ widely-discussed book, “The Let Them Theory.” But this isn’t just another book review — it’s an exploration into the philosophies, challenges and realities of setting boundaries in sobriety and life.
Why Are We So Drawn to the “Let Them” Theory?
Mel Robbins’ book has taken the self-help world by storm for its deceptively simple, two-word mantra: “Let Them.” At its core, it suggests that letting people act how they wish — be it friends, family or co-workers — can be the ultimate move for mental health and sober boundaries. But is “Let Them” truly a theory, a revolutionary idea or simply a catchy phrase rebranded for mass appeal?
As Dr. Sarah Michaud puts it, the real question is: Can people really do it? “If we could all just say, ‘oh, yeah, let my kid get high, I don’t give a sh*t,’ there would be no Al-Anon; there would be no codependency treatment,” she notes. This zero-BS, real-life perspective — grounded in decades of sobriety and clinical experience — commands you to look beyond the marketing and into the hard work of actually practicing what we preach.
The Heart of The Sober Lifestyle: Why Our Panel of Contributors Is So Excited
What makes this episode captivating is the raw honesty about what it means to be sober today:
- Alysse Bryson frames sobriety not as deprivation, but as the ultimate life hack — turning the myth of missing out on its head and showing that we “still know how to shut down a dance floor, just with better shoes.”
- Tony Harte brings two decades of experience practicing “Let Them,” acknowledging that while the wisdom isn’t new, the struggle to apply it is universal — especially for those of us in recovery who have made people-pleasing and fixing others an art form.
- Megan Swan highlights why books like “The Let Them Theory” become bestsellers: “This book is for the masses…for people that are just scratching the surface, being a little bit more self-aware and realizing they have choices.” She reminds us that the journey to sobriety often starts with these gateway insights, however shallow they may seem to veterans in recovery.
The why behind each guest’s brand and excitement about living alcohol-free comes from personal transformation and the freedom that honest boundaries bring. Dr. Sarah, a clinical psychologist and codependency expert, is driven by the desire to help “stop controlling others and look at yourself.” Tamar Routly, ever the chaos coordinator and reality-checker, reminds listeners that emotional growth comes from both sides of any relationship: “There’s also our part… If we’re talking about a relationship, there are two sides to this.”
Key Takeaways: Sober Wisdom Meets Pop Culture
1. “Let Them” Is Not a New Theory — But Its Accessibility Has Value
Both Dr. Sarah and Tony agree that Mel Robbins is not reinventing the wheel. “This is well-tread wisdom versus a theory,” Tony says plainly. Life-changing? Maybe not for the seasoned sober. But accessible? Yes — and that has its worth for reaching those just starting out.
2. Boundaries Are Empowering, Not Passive
What does “Let Them” look like when the stakes are high — when you’re dealing with addiction, betrayal or ongoing harm? As Carolyn Bunn astutely points out, it’s about self-reflection as much as self-protection: “If you’re the common denominator, why is this happening and having that self-reflection?” The episode never shies away from the reality that sometimes, “letting them” means walking away or standing up for yourself.
3. Sober Community = Radical Candor + Relatability
Where “The Let Them Theory” as a book may stop at surface-level positivity, The Sober Curator crew goes deeper. Amy Liz Harrison shares, “It’s dangerous for me to do a hard and fast rule on something that is then forever more set in stone.” Sobriety is about flexibility, vulnerability and never pretending we have it all figured out.
4. Sober Lifestyle is Pop Culture, Not Punishment
The podcast doesn’t just cover recovery — it celebrates it. From zero-proof cocktails to meme-worthy party stories, The Sober Curator team proves “getting sober matters, staying sober matters more.” Living alcohol-free is about finally remembering where you left your keys and showing up as your full, imperfect self.
Our Honest Review: Mel Robbins’ “The Let Them Theory” Sobee Score
Each contributor gave the book a candid rating on The Sober Curator’s 1-to-5 Sobee scale:
- The general consensus? Around a 3 out of 5 Sobees — solid for newcomers, but lacking depth for those deep into recovery.
- Praise went to the book’s mass-market accessibility, simplicity and viral marketing appeal.
- Criticisms focused on lack of originality, substance and acknowledgment of complex issues like addiction, codependency and adult friendships with real-world stakes.
Why You Should Listen: Emotional Connection & The Real Sober Why
The episode’s magic lies not in critiquing the book, but in the laughter, personal revelations and the undeniable truth that, for each guest, choosing sobriety is about reclaiming joy, self-respect and connection.
Whether you’re newly sober, “sober curious” or a longtime member of recovery, this episode cuts through buzzwords and challenges you to ask: What do boundaries and the “Let Them” mindset really mean for my emotional health?
The takeaway is clear: Sobriety isn’t about missing out — it’s about showing up with courage, humor and a whole lot of heart. And in a world obsessed with quick fixes, The Sober Curator reminds us that real transformation is an inside job — best taken one honest conversation at a time.
Ready to (re)think your sober game? Listen to episode 22 of The Sober Curator Podcast for unfiltered conversation, powerful wisdom, and some much-needed laughs. And remember: getting sober matters, staying sober matters even more.
Getting sober is one thing—but staying sober? That’s where the real adventure begins.
This show is for you if you’ve ever wondered:
– Where can I find inspiring sober podcasts, apps, and creators?
– How do I give back or stay plugged into the sober community
– What are the best sober-friendly drinks and travel tips?
– Where do I find the good NA drinks that don’t taste like regret?
The Sober Curator is your go-to for sober pop culture, booze-free travel, apps, creators, and community.
We’re not here to help you get sober.
We’re here to help you live sober—and love it.
In this Halloween-adjacent, tinfoil-hat episode of Hot Takes, Alysse Bryson and Tamar Routly go all in on the internet’s latest obsession: the mysterious third interstellar visitor dubbed 3I Atlas — and why it’s got TikTok convinced the aliens/UAPs/possibly-not-friendly-space-neighbors are here. They unpack what we actually know, why the NASA site went dark during the U.S. government shutdown at the exact wrong time, and — most importantly — whether sober people will use “the aliens are coming” as an excuse to drink. Spoiler: if you want to leave Earth with a clear head, this one’s for you. The throughline? We don’t control space, we barely understand the ocean, and yet we still get to choose sobriety today. “Getting sober matters. Staying sober matters more.”
Takeaways
“UFOs” are so 1997 — it’s UAPs now (unidentified anomalous phenomena), because of course it is.
A third interstellar object — 3I Atlas — was detected in July 2025, its path looks intentional, and it even “blinked out” for 19 seconds, fueling conspiracy culture.
Online footage is getting harder to trust thanks to AI, edits, and government sites conveniently going down — digital discernment is now a sober skill.
Anxiety about the unknown used to drive many of us to drink; now we choose clarity over chaos. Cosmic dread ≠ relapse trigger.
Bottom line: the universe is huge, we’re the ants, and we still only have today — so stay sober, stay playful, stay curious.
Key Timestamps
[00:00] Tinfoil-hat cold open: “Jesus, take the wheel” and why this episode is literally hot under the masks.
[02:30] What 3I Atlas allegedly is, why it matters, and why TikTok ran with it.
[04:30] NASA site down during the U.S. shutdown — coincidence or cover-your-UAP?
[05:30] Would you drink if aliens landed? Choosing to “die clearheaded.”
[08:30] Oceans, fallen angels, and “maybe space is actually underwater?” theories.
[11:30] Final sober mic drop: “Today I’m sober and you’re sober.”
Notable Resources or Guest Links
Watch this episode on YouTube for the full UAP costume chaos
Follow Alysse on The Sober Curator for more sober-pop-culture deep dives
Suggested sober homework: search “3I Atlas” on TikTok/YouTube but fact-check everything first
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About: Sobriety isn’t the end of the party—it’s just the start of a better one. Hosted by Alysse Bryson, media powerhouse and sobriety’s ultimate hype woman, and joined by Sober Curator contributors, The Sober Curator Podcast* delivers bold convos, pop culture deep dives, and zero-proof living that doesn’t suck. Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or just looking for good vibes without the hangover, we’ve got you covered. Subscribe now—because getting sober matters, staying sober matters more.
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