They used to tell me, “Hey, kid, the journey from the head to the heart takes time; stick around you’ll make it.” I had no fricking idea what they were talking about and why they were telling me this. (Oh, and to be clear, they are that group of people who suddenly have opinions on your life, and you don’t even know them. I’m sure you have some people like that in your life.) I’ve gradually learned that they were right; the trip from the head to the heart, the journey, is a must on the list of trips one will take in life, and it’s s trip that takes time! Time. Takes. Time.
You’re definitely going to need a map, and quite frankly, it’s a lot of effort; there’s no way of shortcuts, and a fast-track pass is worthless. This trip is a long and winding road; take it from me; I’ve been on the journey for what seems like an eternity! Over the past twenty-five years, I’ve learned that this trip is essential to take to reach true fulfillment, happiness, contentment, and self-actualization, on which, of course, I’m still working.
This may sound pompous or that I’m being trite, but I’m not; just hear me out.
This self-discovery and spiritual journey sh/t are ongoing and brutal as F*ck (sometimes). It’s also a fantastic high to chase.
Maybe you’re at a point in your life where you are discovering you can’t stop eating lemon pound-cake or that bankruptcy is knocking at your door; your best friend just told you she is not interested in being your friend! Maybe divorce papers are sitting on your desk. Maybe your kid just got suspended! Perhaps it’s all too much, and your thoughts are like a vast, toxic dust storm. Life is messy. And, we are all living through uncertain times; I mean we’ve just spent over two years afraid of something we can’t even see, touch, feel or smell! Being afraid became a part of daily life, disrupting everything. What do you do?
I know what you do.
You shut down, freeze in your tracks, do nothing, sleep, dishes pile, and laundry piles, and cry a lot. Life feels heavy and as if things will never change. This stage can only go on for so long; it’s detrimental to your zesty personality that lives below the surface, which is suffocating.
Then, one day you wake up with a resolution to change, so you start asking for help; you don’t have time to read your personal map that you’ve shoved to the bottom of your bag, which actually has all your answers. You totally ignore it.
Your best girlfriend suggests seeing her astrologer; you take the bull by the horns and make an appointment! Astrology, Tarot, Auras, oh my, yes, to all the woo-woo, let’s do this is your attitude. I must change my life!
You listen to the astrologer with open ears and a yearning heart for a solution to whatever issue you have going on in your life.
They speak to you with a flowery, well-scripted message about your Dharma, the planets, and maybe even your Karma, and how long you will be in this situation. They will share the planetary shifts—the moon’s position, and perhaps they’ll even talk about Venus or the specifics of the “Hanged Man” from the Tarot card you turned over in the reading. You begin to feel something.
Yes, my friend, you are feeling…you’re feeling again, you’re not suffocating, you’re going to pull through, fear subsides, because you have…
Hope.
Okay, I’m going to blast in here for a second and shed some insight; it’s simply my opinion, and I’m qualified to share it because I’ve listened to more than 25 astrologers in my life, maybe even upwards of 50. I’ve had my aura read, tarot cards pulled, and even my human design thing revealed to me. I’ve slept with crystals on my body and under my bed in a grid thing, drank the high vibe water every day, performed rituals, calculated numbers, and hired psychics because, you know, I wanted to feel hope, I wanted to feel different.
I wanted someone else to tell me an answer, reveal the truth to me. And you know what? I completely loved every minute of it.
Hope is like a drug; I’ve chased it a lot in my life.
But here’s the truth, and you may want to stop reading if you are a hope junkie; it’s okay. You can stop.
When we are chasing hope, we’ve taken a detour off the path. Sometimes it’s brief, while other times years can pass. Hope is fun, and it’s definitely a road towards the heart but it can become expensive and can eventually lead to burnout. When we are chasing hope, we are actually hunting for something to change the way we perceive something as wrong, or not in alignment with what we want, NOW.
I find it fascinating that we seek outside ourselves for the profound answers within us, we have them on our very own map, but we usually bury them and never use them!
Human’s are challenged.
Are you afraid to go inside the warmest, safest place,and find peace?
You probably just said, NO… and I get it, but when offered your roadmap to discover the clear answer… you eat another brownie!
Yet, my friends, this is where the journey lives, all of it.
We have a map with clear directions, purpose, and meaning, but we forget.
Most of the work I teach my students is simple; it’s about remembering to remember the map.
Of course, listen and learn about your Human Design, tarot card readings, and aura colors. Go for it, go all in, because eventually, you will have a moment that will guide you back to your heart, your map to your divine purpose.
Are you on the path to your best life?
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