curator
curator (noun) curators (plural noun)
a keeper or custodian of sobriety and recovery culture, including sober pop culture, sober celebrities, the best alcohol-free beverages, the best books on recovery and self-help, the best sober podcasts, TV shows, movies and documentaries on addiction, mental health, and recovery. The Sober Curator selects and curates all aspects of sober living, providing authoritative guidance and approval within the realm of sobriety; see The Sober Curator.
synonyms:
custodian, keeper, conservator, guardian, caretaker, steward
Glossary of Addiction and Recovery Terms
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12 Steps
/ˈtwɛɫv ˈtwɛɫv/
Noun
A set of guiding spiritual principles for the recovery process as outlined by Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, and other Anonymous groups; it is also often used as a short reference to AA by its members. #IYKYK
13th Step
/ˈθɝˈtinθ ˈstɛp/
Noun
A negative term used in 12-step communities to describe potentially inappropriate or predatory-like behavior of someone with long-term sobriety making romantic or sexual gestures to someone in early sobriety, defined as under one year.
A
ABC
/ˈeɪˌbiˌsi/ deriving from CBT and REBT, used in SMART Recovery
Noun
A recovery or therapy tool (deriving from CBT and REBT, used in SMART Recovery) for preventing relapse, creating behavioral change, or regulating emotions; the acronym stands for Activating event, Belief, Consequences, Disputing irrational beliefs, and Effective new beliefs.
Abstinence
ab·sti·nence
/ˈabstənəns/
Noun
Refraining from using a particular substance (or all of them).
Abuse
/əˈbyo͞oz/
Verb
Using a substance beyond the intended amount or purpose.
ACA
/ˈækə/ Adult Children of Alcoholics
[also known as ACOA]
Noun
A 12-step community for those seeking recovery from having alcoholic or addicted parents.
ACCEPTS
ac·cepts
/ækˈsɛpts/
Noun
A recovery or relapse prevention tool used in DBT and SMART Recovery; the acronym stands for Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing Away, Thoughts, and Sensations.
Adaptogens
/əˈdaptəˌjens/
Noun
natural substances (like ashwagandha) added to alcohol-free beverages. Advocates may claim these substances help the body adapt to stress, promote balance, or enhance well-being.
Addict
ad·dict
/ˈadik(t)/
Noun
A term used to describe an individual who has a problematic relationship with drugs or other substances or behavioral processes (e.g., food, shopping, sex, gambling, sex, etc.), leading to self-harm or harm to others.
Addicted
ad·dict·ed
/əˈdɪktɪd/
Noun
The process of becoming or the state of being physically or emotionally dependent upon a substance or behavior to function, where the removal of such substance or behavior creates acute symptoms of physical or emotional distress but also results in changes in the brain structure that result in patterns of irrational and uncontrollable behaviors. Thus, a person can develop a chemical dependence but not have an addiction, and vice versa. However, addiction and chemical dependence often accompany each other. See chemical dependence.
Addiction Fiction
ad·dic·tion fic·tion
/əˈdɪktɪd/
Noun
Fictional books featuring addiction, recovery, or mental health as part of the main storyline.
Al-Anon
/ˈæɫˌæˈnɔn/
Noun
Al-Anon is a mutual support group for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. It provides a supportive environment where members share their experiences, strengths, and hopes with each other. The primary focus is on helping members cope with the challenges of having a family member or friend who has a drinking problem.
Alateen
al·a·teen
/ˈæɫˌeɪˌtin/
Noun
Alateen is a part of the Al-Anon Family Groups specifically designed for teenagers (ages 13-18) who have been affected by someone else’s drinking, typically a parent or close family member. Like Al-Anon, Alateen operates on the principles of mutual support, confidentiality, and anonymity. It provides a safe space where young people can share their experiences, learn coping skills, and support one another in dealing with the effects of alcoholism in their families.
Alcohol-Free/ AF
al·co·hol-free/ AF
/ˈæɫkəˌhɑɫ ˈfɹi/
Noun
Products or environments that do not contain or promote alcohol consumption. It is often abbreviated as AF.
Alcohol-Free Influencer
al·co·hol free in·flu·en·cer
/ˈæɫkəˌhɑɫ ˈfɹi ˈɪnfɫuənˈsɝ/
Noun
Individuals who advocate for and promote alcohol-free
lifestyles and products.
Alcoholic
al·coh·ol·ic
/ˌæɫkəˌhɑɫɪk/
Noun
A term used to describe an individual who has a problematic relationship with alcohol, leading to self-harm or harm to others. While the term can be used negatively, those who self-identify as an alcoholic often do so as a way to keep themselves sober. The term can also be used to describe a beverage that contains alcohol.Alcohol Misuse
al·coh·ol mis·use
/ˈæɫkəˌhɑɫ mɪsˈjus/
Noun
Alcohol misuse refers to the consumption of alcohol in a manner that potentially harms the drinker or leads the drinker to harm other people.
Alt-Sober
alt so·ber
/ˈɑɫt ˈsoʊbɝ/
Noun
A person who became sober through a different pathway to recovery; someone who became sober through a mutual aid support group other than AA, see AA.
AUD
/ˈeɪ ˈju ˈdi/
Noun
An abbreviation of Alcohol Use Disorder, most often used in the context of medical care or treatment, but can also be a preferred term used by many to replace the terms alcoholic or addict.
Audrey Kishline
/ˈɔdɹi ˈkɪʃˈɫaɪn/
Noun
The founder of the Moderation Management movement. Many find her to be controversial, while others have found her approach to be helpful in initiating their recovery journey; see Moderation Management.
B
The Big Book
/ˈðə ˈbɪɡ ˈbʊk/
Noun
The common nickname for the book, Alcoholics Anonymous, which was first published in 1939 and outlines the AA program for recovery.
Bill W.
/ˈbɪɫ ˈdəbəɫju/
Noun
William Griffith (aka Bill) Wilson, Co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Boundaries
boun·dar·ies
/ˈbaʊndɝiz/
Noun
Rules or limits that someone establishes to protect their well-being (emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, financial, etc.), their sobriety, or both.
Building Discrepancy
build·ing dis·cre·pan·y
/ˈbɪɫdɪŋ dɪsˈkɹɛpənsi/
Noun
Also known as Developing Discrepancy, this is a motivational interviewing tool that helps individuals work through their ambivalence about quitting substance use and embracing cessation of use.
C
Co Anon
co an·on
/ˈkoʊ ˌæˈnɔn/
Noun
Family Groups that offer fellowship to individuals who are husbands, wives, parents, partners, relatives or close friends of someone who is or has been chemically dependent.
California Sober
cal·i·for·nia so·ber
/ˌkæɫəˈfɔɹnjə ˈsoʊbɝ/ also called Cali Sober
Noun
A term used to describe someone who is working to abstain from using alcohol and other complex chemical substances but may still use cannabis.
CBD
/ˈsi ˈbi ˈdi/
Noun
Short for cannabidiol, CBD is the second most prevalent active ingredient in cannabis (marijuana). CBD is also an essential component of medical marijuana, and it is derived directly from the hemp plant, a cousin of marijuana, or manufactured in a laboratory. One of hundreds of components in marijuana, CBD does not cause a high by itself.
CBT
/ˈsi ˈbi ˈti/
Noun
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a widely used and evidence-based psychotherapy approach focusing on connections between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It is rooted in the idea that our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world can influence our emotions and behaviors.
Chemical Dependence
chem·i·cal de·pen·dence
/ˈkɛməkəɫ dɪˈpɛndəns/
Noun
The state in which a person’s body has become physically dependent on a substance due to repeated use through developing a tolerance (needing a higher amount to achieve the same effect) and experiencing withdrawal (symptoms of discomfort experienced once the substance has left the body).
ChemSafe
chem·safe
/ˈkɛmˌseɪf/
Noun
ChemSafe is a support group for individuals who are in recovery from chemsex. Chemsex means using drugs as part of your sex life. It’s most common among men who have sex with men, but it is also becoming more common among people having heterosexual sex and people identifying as LGBT+.Church Basements
chur·ch base·ments
/ˈtʃɝtʃ ˈbeɪsmənts/
Noun
Traditional meeting spaces for Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and other 12-step-based recovery groups, often used by people in AA to refer to it without referring to it.
CMA
/ˈsi ˈɛm ˈeɪ/
Noun
Crystal Meth Anonymous, a 12-step program for seeking recovery from Crystal Meth.
CODA
/ˈkoʊdə/
Noun
Codependents Anonymous, a 12-step program for seeking recovery from codependence.
Codependence
co·de·pen·dence
/ˈkoʊ dɪˈpɛndəns/
Noun
A pattern of self-defeating, learned behaviors or character defects that result in a diminished capacity to initiate or participate in loving relationships; a codependent person is someone who has let another person’s behavior affect them and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.
To learn more about how to navigate the ups and downs of codependency, tune into The Sober Curator’s podcast, Leaving CrazyTown with Dr. Sarah Michaud and Finn Allen.
Columbia Sober
co·lum·bia so·ber
/kəˈɫəmbiə ˈsoʊbɝ/
Noun
A term used to describe individuals who abstain from alcohol …and may use other substances (like cocaine).
Coping Strategies
cop·ing strat·eg·ies
/ˈkoʊpɪŋ ˈstɹætədʒiz/
Noun
Techniques and practices used to manage cravings and difficult emotions without turning to alcohol or drugs.
Counting Days
count·ing days
/ˈkaʊnɪŋ ˈdeɪz/
Noun
A term typically used by someone in early sobriety that is used by someone who attends a 12-step support group.
Crossroads
cross·roads
/ˈkɹɔsˌɹoʊdz/
Noun
A critical decision or pivotal moment in someone’s journey towards recovery or maintaining sobriety; it symbolizes a juncture where choices are made that can significantly impact one’s path forward.
Cross-Talk
/ˈkɹɔs ˈtɔk/
Noun
A commonly used phrase in 12-step circles of responding with thoughts and opinions to the person sharing without being asked; most 12-step groups do not allow cross-talk during the meeting itself.
Curator
cur·a·tor
/ˈkjʊɹətɝ/
Noun
a keeper or custodian of of sobriety and recovery culture, including sober pop culture, sober celebrities, the best alcohol-free beverages, the best books on recovery and self-help, the best sober podcasts, TV shows,movies, and documentaries on addiction, mental health, and recovery. The Sober Curator selects and curates all aspects of sober living and all pathways to sobriety, providing authoritative guidance and approval within the realm of sobriety; see The Sober Curator.
D
DA
/ˈdi ˈeɪ/
Noun
Debtors Anonymous, a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from accumulating debt.
DBT
/ˈdi ˈbi ˈti/
Noun
Dialectical Behavior Therapy, initially developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan in the late 1980s, combines elements from cognitive-behavioral methods and mindfulness strategies to target four areas of wellness: mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness. It has been adapted for use with other mental health conditions, such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and AUDs/SUDs.
Dealcoholization
de·al·cohol·iz·ation
/ˈdeɪˈæɫkəˌɪzˈʃɔn/
Noun
A tool for emotion regulation and interpersonal effectiveness originating from DBT. It is often used in SMART Recovery. The acronym is Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindfulness, Appear confident, and Negotiate.
Detox
de·tox
ˈdiˌtɑks/
Noun
Short for detoxification, detox can refer to the acute period time of time following the decision to stop the use of alcohol or drugs, or it can refer to the level of treatment a person seeks when they decide to stop using alcohol or drugs. Medical-based detox is recommended for anyone seeking to stop using alcohol or benzodiazepines (e.g., Klonopin, Xanax, etc.), as heart attacks, strokes, and even death can occur through sudden withdrawal from alcohol and benzodiazepines.
Dr. Bob
/ˈdɑktɝ ˈbɑb/
Noun
Dr. Robert Holbrook Smith, Co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Drunk dial
drunk di·al
/ˈdɑktɝ ˈbɑb/
Noun
A playful or negative term to describe someone who is intoxicated or under the influence of alcohol calling anyone on their phone contact list.
Dry Drunk
/ˈdɹaɪ ˈdɹəŋk/
Noun
A term usually used negatively to describe someone who is abstinent but still exhibits unhealthy behaviors.
Dry Humping
dry hump·ing
/ˈdɹaɪ ˈhəmpˈɪŋ/
Noun
Someone who hooks up while sober; term was first used for the book title “Dry Humping” by Tawny Lara.
Dry January
dry jan·u·ary
/ˈdɹaɪ ˈdʒænjuˌɛɹi/
Noun
A popular challenge where participants abstain from alcohol for the month of January. Dry January is a public health initiative encouraging people to abstain from alcohol in January. The challenge was started in 2012 by Alcohol Change UK, a UK-based organization, and has become increasingly popular in the United States. In 2022, 35% of American adults participated in Dry January.
E
EA
/ˈi ˈeɪ/
Noun
Emotions Anonymous, a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from mental and emotional illness.
Eight Step Recovery
eight step re·cov·ery
/ˈeɪt ˈstɛp ɹɪˈkəvɝi/
Noun
An alternative recovery program based on Buddhist teachings. This Eight-step program is a set of mindfulness teachings outlining a suggested course of action for recovery from addiction, stinking thinking, negative mental states, and compulsive and obsessive behaviors. It was co-founded by Dr. Valerie Mason-John and Dr. Paramabandhu Groves in 2013.Elective Sobriety
el·ec·tive re·cov·ery
/ɪˈɫɛktɪv ɹɪˈkəvɝi/
Noun
An individual who voluntarily decides to remove alcohol from their life, they may or may not have lived with an alcohol use disorder (AUD), see AUD.
F
FA
/ˈˈɛf ˈeɪ/
Noun
Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous, a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from food addiction.
FAA
/ˈˈɛf ˈeɪ ˈeɪ/
Noun
Food Addicts Anonymous, a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from food addiction.
Family Support
fam·i·ly sup·port
/ˈfæməɫi səˈpɔɹt/
Noun
Refers to the involvement and assistance provided by family members to an individual recovering from alcoholism or addiction.
FAST
/ˈfæst/
Noun
DBT tool for interpersonal effectiveness; the acronym stands for (Be) Fair, (No) Apologies, Stick to Values, and (Be) Truthful.
Friend of Bill
Friend of Bill W/ Friend of Bill and Bob
/ˈfɹɛnd ˈəv ˈbɪɫ/
Noun
A term used to identify oneself as a member of AA, often used as a polite introduction or query in public settings when individuals in recovery meet others in recovery.
Functional Beverages
func·tion·al bev·er·ag·es
/ˈfəŋkʃənəɫ ˈbɛvɹɪdʒɪz/
Noun
Non-alcoholic drinks designed to provide health benefits or enhance well-being.
Functioning Alcoholic
func·tion·ing al·co·hol·ic
/ˈfəŋkʃənɪŋ ˌæɫkəˈhɑɫɪk/
Noun
A colloquial term for someone who is dependent on alcohol but is still able to function relatively effectively in their daily life. They will be able to continue doing many of their daily tasks like going to work and looking after family members; see High Functioning Alcoholic/ Addict.
G
Gratitude
grat·i·tude
/ˈɡɹætəˌtud/
Verb
A mindset of thankfulness and appreciation for the positive aspects of life in recovery.
Grey Area Drinker
grey ar·ea drink·er
/ˈɡɹeɪ ˈɛɹiə ˈdɹɪŋkɝ/
Verb
A term used to describe someone who falls between being a social drinker and having a drinking problem.
Grounding
ground·ing
/ˈɡɹaʊndɪŋ/
Verb
A term often used in therapy to describe a variety of strategies used to help individuals bring their focus to the present moment and reconnect with their physical surroundings. Check out this playlist of grounding techniques.
GSA
/ˈdʒi ˈɛs ˈeɪ/
Noun
GreySheeters Anonymous, a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from food compulsions/ addiction.
H
HALT
Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
/ˈhɔɫt/
Noun
A mnemonic device that helps people remember and identify common triggers and vulnerable states in recovery. It is a critical strategy in most therapeutic models for relapse prevention.
Harm Reduction
harm re·duc·tion
/ˈhɑɹm ɹəˈdəkʃən/
Noun
A term used to describe a spectrum of therapeutic, medical, or social justice strategies to minimize the negative consequences of substance use, including safer use, managed use, medication management, meeting people “where they’re at,” abstinence, or addressing the conditions associated with substance use.
Helpline
help·line
/ˈhɛɫpˌɫaɪn/
Noun
A specialized telephone service that provides support, information, and assistance to individuals in need. It is available during certain operating hours; it is not a 24/7 service; see Hotline.
High Functioning Alcoholic/ Addict
high func·tion·ing al·co·hol·ic/ ad·dict
/ˈhaɪ ˈfəŋkʃənɪŋ ˌæɫkəˈhɑɫɪk/ | /ˈæˌdɪkt/
Noun
A term used to describe individuals who may struggle with alcohol or substance use disorders but may be maintaining or performing in their assigned roles or responsibilities and may not yet have experienced severe consequences to their substance use. Some argue with the legitimacy of the term, pointing out that labeling someone a “high functioning” alcoholic/addict aids in minimizing the consequences of their substance misuse and seeking to divide rather than unify people in recovery from alcoholism and addiction; see Functioning Alcoholic.
Higher Power
high·er pow·er
/ˈhaɪɝ ˈpaʊɝ/
Noun
A term from AA that defines someone’s reason for becoming and staying sober; a religious deity or all-knowing entity; something more significant than oneself.
Hotline
high func·tion·ing al·co·hol·ic/ ad·dict
/ˈhaɪ ˈfəŋkʃənɪŋ ˌæɫkəˈhɑɫɪk/ | /ˈæˌdɪkt/
Noun
A dedicated telephone service designed to provide immediate assistance, support, and information to individuals in crisis, typically available 24/7; see Helpline.
I
IMPROVE
IM·PROVE
/ˌɪmˈpɹuv/
Noun
A coping skill derived from DBT; the acronym stands for Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing in the moment, Vacation, and Encouragement.
In the Rooms
/ˈɪn ˈðə ˈɹumz/
Noun
Refers to the physical and metaphorical space where these meetings occur and individuals gather to support each other in their recovery journeys.
IP
/ˈaɪ ˈpi/
Noun
An abbreviation for inpatient treatment, such as alcohol or drug rehab or psychiatric hospital stay.
IOP
/ˈaɪ ˈoʊ ˈpi/
Noun
An abbreviation for Intensive Outpatient Treatment. It can be used for substance use treatment, mental health treatment, or dual diagnosis/dual recovery treatment. It involves intensive group therapy three hours per day, three to five days per week, in an outpatient setting.
J
Journey
jour·ney
/ˈdʒɝni/
Noun
Used to describe the process of recovery or the path to sobriety, highlighting the ongoing nature and personal growth involved.
K
Karma
kar·ma
/ˈkɑɹmə/
Noun
The idea of actions having consequences, which can be relevant to the process of self-reflection and personal growth.
Kairos
kair·os
/ˈkīräs/
Noun
A Greek word that refers to an opportune moment for decision or action; a critical moment of realization or change.
L
LifeRing Secular Recovery
life·ring sec·ul·ar re·cov·ery
/ˈɫaɪfˈɹɪŋ ˈsɛkjəɫɝ ɹɪˈkəvɝi/
Noun
An abstinence-based, non-12-step, and anonymous organization aimed to provide a safe and non-judgmental space with peers for those seeking recovery from alcohol, drugs, etc.
Lived Experience
live·d ex·per·i·ence
/ˈɫaɪvd ɪkˈspɪɹiəns/
Noun
Lived experience refers to the personal knowledge and understanding individuals gain from their life events and circumstances; it emphasizes individuals’ subjective, first-hand experiences and perceptions rather than objective or theoretical knowledge.
M
MAT
/ˈmæt/
Noun
Medication-Assisted Treatment, such as methadone, Suboxone, naltrexone/Vivitrol, or any other type of medication used to help individuals maintain abstinence from alcohol or drugs.
Meeting After the Meeting
meet·ing af·ter the meet·ing
/ˈmitɪŋ ˈæftɝ ˈðə ˈmitɪŋ/
Noun
Commonly used in 12-step circles, this refers to the coffee hour or the opportunity to mingle after group meetings, also known as fellowship.
Meeting in a Box
meet·ing in a box
/ˈmitɪŋ ˈɪn ˈeɪ ˈbɑks/
Noun
A community organizing tool that contains everything you need to host and run a meeting, often used in Alateen.
Mindful Drinking
mind·ful drink·ing
/ˈmaɪndfəɫ ˈdɹɪŋkɪŋ/
Noun
Describes the practice of using awareness and intentionality in alcohol consumption. It is often used with the term “sober curious.” While some use the term earnestly, others may view mindful drinking negatively and see it as an attempt to manage the “real problem” in the early Stages of Change. The term is often renamed “mindful denial.”Mindfulness
mind·ful·ness
/ˈmaɪndfəɫˈnɛs/
Noun
The theory and practice of being present and conscious in the current moment.
Mocktail
mock·tail
/ˈmɑkˈteɪɫ/
Noun
A traditional-looking cocktail but made without alcohol; also known as a “dry cocktail”, “Zero Proof cocktail, “Alcohol-Free Cocktail”, or alcohol-free beverage.
Moderate Drinker
mod·er·ate drink·er
/ˈmɑdɝˌeɪt ˈdɹɪŋkɝ/
Noun
An individual who consumes alcohol in moderate amounts without excess.
Moderation
mod·er·a·tion
/ˌmɑdɝˈeɪʃən/
Noun
The practice of consuming alcohol in limited quantities, often used in association with “mindful drinking”.
Moderation Management
mod·er·a·tion man·age·ment
/ˌmɑdɝˈeɪʃən ˈmænədʒmənt/
Noun
Moderation Management (MM) is a support network and program designed for individuals who want to make positive changes in their drinking habits, specifically by moderating their alcohol consumption rather than abstaining completely. It was founded in 1994 by Audrey Kishline, who aimed to offer an alternative to traditional abstinence-based programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA).Mood-Enhancing
mood en·hanc·ing
/ˈmud ɛnˈhænsɪŋ/
Noun
Factors, practices, or herbal substances (such as adaptogens) that elevate mood.
Mostly Dry
most·ly dry
/ˈmoʊsɫi ˈdɹaɪ/
Noun
This term describes individuals who predominantly abstain from alcohol but may indulge occasionally.
Motivational Interviewing
mot·iv·a·tion·al in·ter·view·ing
/ˌmoʊtəˈveɪʃənəɫ ˈɪntɝvˌjuɪŋ/
Noun
A collaborative, person-centered counseling approach that aims to elicit and strengthen a person’s motivation for behavior change.
MOUD
/ˈmɔd/
Noun
Medications for Opioid Use DisorderMultiple Pathways
mult·i·ple path·ways
/ˈməɫtəpəɫ ˈpæθˌweɪz/
Noun
A philosophy of recovery that advocates no single, universally effective approach to overcoming addiction.
N
NA
/ˈɛn ˈeɪ/
Noun
Abbreviation for non-alcoholic when referring to beverages.
Narcan/ Naloxone
nar·can/ nal·ox·one
/ˈɛnɑɹ ˈkæn/
Noun
A medication designed to reverse opioid overdoses rapidly.
Non-12-Step Program
non-12-step pro·gram
/ˈnɑn ˈtwɛɫv ˈstɛp ˈpɹoʊˌɡɹæm/
Noun
This term refers to recovery programs not following the traditional 12-step model.
O
OARS
/ˈɔɹz/
Noun
A therapeutic intervention deriving from Motivational Interviewing, the acronym stands for Open-ended questions, making affirmations, using reflective statements, and summarizing. OARS aims to help nurture motivation for change in the recipient.
ODAAT
/ˈoʊˈdæt/
Noun
“One Day At A Time,” a common mantra in recovery.
Opposite Action
op·po·site ac·tion
/ˈɑpəzət ˈækʃən/
Noun
An emotion regulation tool deriving from DBT that focuses on changing behavior to change how you feel.
OUD
/ˈoʊ ˈju ˈdi/
Noun
An abbreviation for opioid use disorder.
Outside Issue
out·side iss·ue
/ˈaʊtˈsaɪd ˈɪʃu/
Noun
A commonly used phrase in 12-step circles that refers to topics inappropriate for discussion inside 12-step meetings. Examples include religion, politics, etc.P
Peer
/ˈpɪɹ/
Noun
A person with lived experience who is in recovery.
People, Places, and Things
peo·ple, pla·ces, and, things
/ˈpipəɫ ˈpɫeɪsəz ˈænd ˈθɪŋz/
Noun
A phrase often referenced in the context of addiction recovery and sobriety maintenance; It highlights the importance of identifying and managing triggers that can lead to relapse; Commonly mentioned in 12 step groups of what a person has no control over.
Person-Centered
per·son-cen·ter·ed
/ˈpɝsən ˈsɛntɝd/
Noun
A person-centered approach to recovery is a philosophy and practice in mental health and substance use disorder treatment that emphasizes the individual’s autonomy, strengths, and personal goals in their journey toward recovery.
PLEASE
PL·EASE
/ˈpɫiz/
Noun
A self-regulation tool deriving from DBT; the acronym stands for (treating) Physical illness, eating, (avoiding) mood-altering substances, (getting) sleep, and exercise.
Put it in the Parking Lot
put it in the park·ing lot
/ˈpʊt ˈɪt ˈɪn ˈðə ˈpɑɹkɪŋ ˈɫɑt/
Noun
This is shorthand for telling someone to temporarily set aside a particular idea, question, or issue so the group can focus on the main topic. This saying originated in AA and refers to the “meeting after the meeting” and the discussions one has outside the meeting with fellow group members.Q
Quit Lit / QUITLIT
/ˈkwɪt ˈɫɪt/
Noun
“Quit lit” is a genre of literature that focuses on the personal journeys of individuals who have decided to quit drinking alcohol or using other substance; these books typically blend memoir, self-help, and sometimes wellness or health literature elements.
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Recover Out Loud
re·cov·er out loud
/ɹɪˈkəvɝ ˈaʊt ˈɫaʊd/
Noun
Advocating for sobriety and recovery in public.
Recovered vs. Recovering
re·cov·er·ed vs. re·cov·er·ing
/ɹəˈkəvɝd ˈviˈɛs ɹəˈkəvɝɪŋ/
Noun
Terms to describe the different stages in the journey of overcoming alcoholism and addiction; often, the term one chooses to use reveals an underlying belief about whether or not one believes alcoholism/addiction can be cured or can only be managed.
Recovering Out-Loud
re·cov·er·ing out-loud
/ɹəˈkəvɝɪŋ ˈaʊt ˈɫaʊd/
Noun
Sharing a portion or all of one’s story with another individual, through the media, within a political platform, or within a community or organization to promote the potential for healing and improvement of quality of life when one embarks on a path of recovery.
Recovery Ally
re·cov·er·y ally
/ɹɪˈkəvɝi ˈæɫaɪ/
Noun
A recovery ally is a friend, family member, or supporter of someone in recovery who chooses to abstain from alcohol and substances in support of their loved one; it can also refer to someone who has not been diagnosed with AUD or SUD, but who is knowledgeable and supportive of people in recovery.
Recovery Capital
re·cov·ery cap·i·tal
/ɹɪˈkəvɝi ˈkæpətəɫ/
Noun
Refers to the internal and external resources needed for an individual to initiate and maintain recovery. Recovery capital can be divided into four types: physical, human, family/social, and community.
Recovery Community
re·cov·er·y comm·un·i·ty
/ɹɪˈkəvɝi kəmˈjunəti/
Noun
A network of individuals who support one another in their journey to sobriety.
Recovery Dharma
re·cov·ery dh·ar·ma
/ɹɪˈkəvɝi ˈdɑɹmə/
Noun
A peer-led, Buddhist-inspired approach to addiction recovery that integrates mindfulness practices and Buddhist principles with traditional recovery methods. Founded by Noah Levine, author of “Dharma Punx” and “Refuge Recovery,” Recovery Dharma offers an alternative pathway to sobriety for individuals struggling with addiction.
Recovery Journey
re·cov·er·y jour·ney
/ɹɪˈkəvɝi ˈdʒɝni/
Noun
The ongoing process of healing and growth in sobriety.
Recovery Management
re·cov·ery man·age·ment
/ɹɪˈkəvɝi ˈmænədʒmənt/
Noun
Recovery-focused services and activities, which typically occur after the completion of an inpatient or outpatient treatment program, aim to improve quality of life and recovery success significantly.
ROSC (Recovery Oriented System of Care)
/ˈɑɹ ˈoʊ ˈɛs ˈsi/
Noun
A coordinated network of community-based services and supports that is person-centered and builds on the strengths and resiliencies of individuals, families, and communities to achieve recovery and improved health, wellness, and quality of life for those with or at risk of a substance use disorder or mental illness (Adapted from SAMHSA).
Recovery Patchwork
re·cov·er·y patch·work
/ɹɪˈkəvɝi ˈpætʃˌwɝk/
Noun
A combination of practices, programs, and activities people use to maintain and sustain recovery.
Refuge Recovery
ref·uge re·cov·er·y
/ˈɹɛfjudʒ ɹɪˈkəvɝi/
Noun
A mindfulness-based addiction recovery community that practices and utilizes Buddhist philosophy as the foundation of the recovery process. Drawing inspiration from the core teachings of the Four Noble Truths, emphasis is placed on both knowledge and empathy as a means for overcoming addiction and its causes.
Relapse/ Lapse/ Recurrence
Noun
A return to alcohol or drug consumption or other addictive behavior after a period of sobriety or abstinence.
Relapse Before the Relapse
re·lapse be·fore the re·lapse
/ɹiˈɫæps ˌbiˈfɔɹ ˈðə ɹiˈɫæps/
Noun
A phrase used to describe the attitudes, thoughts, feelings, or behaviors a person resumes before they return to using substances (alcohol, drugs) or processes (sex, shopping, gambling, food) again.
Relapse Prevention Plan
re·lapse pre·ven·tion plan
/ɹiˈɫæps pɹiˈvɛnʃən ˈpɫæn/
Noun
A formal or informal plan that outlines all the coping strategies, resources, safe persons, or actions an individual will or can take to prevent a relapse.
Retired Blackout Artist
re·tired black·out ar·tist
/ɹiˈtaɪɝd ˈbɫæˌkaʊt ˈɑɹtəst/
Noun
A humorous term for individuals who used to experience blackouts due to excessive drinking.
Retired Professional Drinker
re·tired pro·fes·sion·al drink·er
/ɹiˈtaɪɝd pɹəˈfɛʃənəɫ ˈdɹɪŋkɝ/
Noun
Someone who has left behind a career or lifestyle centered around alcohol consumption.
Reverse Osmosis/ Filtration
re·verse os·mos·is/ fil·tra·tion
/ɹiˈvɝs ˌɔzˈmoʊsɪs fɪɫˈtɹeɪʃən/
Noun
This is another method for removing alcohol to create non-alcoholic wine or beer; it aims to remove alcohol while retaining all the flavor.
S
SAA
/ˈɛs ˈeɪ ˈeɪ/
Noun
Sex Addicts Anonymous, a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from sex addiction.
SAMHSA
/ˈsæm ˈeɪtʃ ˈsɑ/
Noun
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, the agency within the U.S. government that oversees the public health of the nation related to substance use and mental health.
Self-Advocacy
self-ad·voc·acy
/ˈsɛɫf ˈædvəkəsi/
Noun
A term referring to the process by which individuals actively speak up for themselves, make informed decisions about their care and treatment, and take charge of their recovery journey. It is a critical component of recovery, especially in contexts such as mental health, addiction, and chronic illness management.
Self-Care
/ˈsɛɫf ˈkɛɹ/
Noun
Practices that promote physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being in sobriety and are universally seen as an essential component in all forms of recovery.
Self-Love
/ˈsɛɫf ˈɫəv/
Noun
The practice of valuing and caring for oneself, recognizing one’s worth, and treating oneself with kindness and compassion.
Serenity Prayer
ser·en·ity pray·er
/sɝˈɛnəti ˈpɹeɪɝ/
Noun
The Prayer of Serenity is a common prayer or mantra that summarizes the pathway to peace as accepting what can and cannot be changed and learning to know the difference.
S-Groups
/ˈɛs ˈɡɹups/
Noun
Referring to any 12-step group focused on recovery from sex addiction, including Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Sexual Compulsives Anonymous, and Sexaholics Anonymous; see SAA.
SMART Recovery
SMART re·cov·ery
/ˈsmɑɹt ɹɪˈkəvɝi/
Noun
SMART Recovery (Self-Management and Recovery Training) is a support group that provides tools and support for individuals seeking to overcome addiction to substances or behaviors. The program is grounded in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and focuses on self-empowerment and self-reliance.
Sobee
so·bee
/ˈsoʊˈbi/
Noun
The rating system of The Sober Curator, which is used to recommend various types of content related to sobriety, recovery, and mental health.
Sober
so·ber
/ˈsoʊbɝ/
Noun
Free from the influence of drugs and alcohol; living without drugs and alcohol consumption.
Sober AF
so·ber af
/ˈsoʊbɝ ˈeɪ ˈɛf/
Noun
Living a sober lifestyle with determination and commitment. AF has a handy double meaning here of either “Alcohol-Free” or “As F*ck” – so why not both?Sober Coach
so·ber coach
/ˈsoʊbɝ ˈkoʊtʃ/
Noun
Also known as a recovery coach, a sober coach is a professional who provides guidance and assistance in maintaining sobriety; be sure to check the coach’s credentials with your state’s certification board to ensure they are able to actively work as a coach in your state/ area.
Sober Companion
so·ber com·pan·ion
/ˈsoʊbɝ kəmˈpænjən/
Noun
A sober companion is a professional who provides one-on-one support to individuals in recovery from addiction. They help clients navigate the challenges of maintaining sobriety in their day-to-day lives, especially during the critical early stages of recovery.
Sober Curious
so·ber cur·i·ous
/ˈsoʊbɝ ˈkjʊɹiəs/
Noun
A state of questioning and exploration regarding one’s relationship with alcohol. #sobercuriousmovement
Sober Mom
so·ber mom
/ˈsoʊbɝ mɑm/
Noun
A mother who calls BS on “Mommy Wine Culture” & prioritizes sobriety in her parenting journey.
Sober Movement
so·ber move·ment
/ˈsoʊbɝ ˈmuvmənt/
Noun
The collective effort to promote sobriety and support those in recovery.
Sober October
so·ber oc·to·ber
/ˈsoʊbɝ ɑkˈtoʊbɝ/
Noun
Similar to Dry January, Sober October is a health and wellness challenge where participants abstain from consuming alcohol for the entire month of October. The initiative is designed to encourage people to take a break from drinking, promote healthier lifestyles, and raise awareness about the effects of alcohol consumption. It also often serves as a fundraiser for various charities.
Soberthday
so·ber·th·day
/ˈsoʊbɝˈtiˈeɪtʃˈdeɪ/
Noun
Sobriety anniversary celebration 🎉 also referred to as a Soberversary.
Sobrietea
so·bri·e·tea
/səˈbɹaɪəti/
Noun
Gossip within the recovery community
SOS
/ˌɛˌoʊˈɛs/
Noun
Secular Organizations for Sobriety, a nonprofit of autonomous, non-professional local groups aimed to help individuals achieve and maintain abstinence or sobriety from alcohol, drugs, food, etc.
Sponsor/ Sponsorship/ Sponsee
Noun
Terms used in 12-step programs to describe mentorship and support roles.
SRA-Anon
SRA-An·on
/ˈsinjɝˈeɪ ˌæˈnɔn/
Noun
Like Al-anon, this is a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from having a loved one battling sex addiction.
STOPP
/ˈstɑp/
Noun
A self-regulation tool deriving from DBT; it stands for Stop, Take a breath, Observe, Pull back/ Perspective, and Practice what works/ Proceed.
Support Group
sup·port group
/səˈpɔɹt ˈɡɹup/
Noun
A gathering of individuals with similar experiences IRL or virtually aimed to provide mutual assistance and encouragement.
Symptom Management
symp·tom man·age·ment
/ˈsɪmptəm ˈmænədʒmənt/
Noun
Symptom management in recovery refers to the strategies and interventions aimed at reducing or alleviating the symptoms associated with a mental health disorder or substance use disorder.
SUD
/ˈɛs ˈju ˈdi/
Noun
Substance use disorderT
Testing Strips
test·ing strips
/ˈtɛstɪŋ ˈstɹɪps/
Noun
Testing strips are a harm reduction tool to reduce/manage risk by testing your substances, such as fentanyl and xylazine testing strips; they are currently available to test for the presence of fentanyl or xylazine to reduce the risk of fatal overdose.
The Sober Curator
the sob·er cur·at·or
/ˈðə ˈsoʊbɝ ˈkjʊɹətɝ/
Noun
The best online sobriety and recovery lifestyle magazine founded by Alysse Bryson.
The Sober Sip
the sob·er sip
/ˈðə ˈsoʊbɝ ˈsɪp/
Noun
The Sober Curator’s weekly newsletter is sent out every Monday at 3 p.m. ET. Are you on the list? CLICK HERE to sign up.
Therapy
ther·a·py
/ˈθɛɹəpi/
Noun
Professional counseling sessions to address underlying issues related to addiction or alcohol use. #therapyiscool
Tools in Your Toolbox
tools in your tool·box
/ˈtuɫz ˈɪn ˈjɔɹ ˈtuɫˌbɔks/
Noun
a term used to describe tools and coping strategy to help you take life one day at a time these can include: therapy, support groups, meditation, exercise, yoga, journaling, etc. are common strategies; also referred to as a sobriety toolbox or simply as a toolbox; see Coping Strategies.
Triggers
trig·gers
/ˈtɹɪɡɝz/
Noun
Situations, people, or emotions that may prompt a desire to drink or use drugs or are associated with drinking, using or past trauma. Triggers also refer to situations, people, thoughts, or beliefs that may contribute to difficulty regulating emotions or behaviors.U
UA
/ˈju ˈeɪ/
Noun
Underearners Anonymous, a 12-step program for those seeking recovery from underearning, underachieving, or under-being.
Unity
un·ity
/ˈjunəti/
Noun
Often emphasized in recovery programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA), unity refers to the fellowship and support among individuals seeking recovery.
Understanding
un·der·stand·ing
/ˌəndɝˈstændɪŋ/
Noun
Key to empathy and support in recovery contexts, understanding involves comprehending the challenges and experiences of those in recovery.
Uplift
up·lift
/ˈəpɫɪft/
Noun
To lift up or inspire, which can symbolize the encouragement and positivity often shared in support groups or therapy sessions for recovery.
V
Values
val·ues
/ˈvæɫjuz/
Noun
Refers to principles or standards of behavior that are important in guiding decisions and actions, which can be crucial in the process of recovery.
Victory
vic·tor·y
/ˈvɪktɝi/
Noun
Often used to describe overcoming challenges or achieving success, victory can signify milestones and achievements in the journey of recovery.
Vigilance
vig·il·ance
/ˈvɪdʒəɫəns/
Noun
Refers to the state of being watchful and alert, which is important in maintaining sobriety and avoiding relapse.
Virtue
vir·tue
/ˈvɝtʃu/
Noun
Refers to moral excellence and goodness, which can be cultivated and strengthened through the process of recovery.
Vulnerability
vul·ner·a·bil·ity
/ˌvəɫnɝəˈbɪɫɪti/
Noun
In the context of recovery, vulnerability refers to openness and willingness to acknowledge one’s struggles and seek support, which is an essential aspect of personal growth and healing.
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White Knuckling
white knuck·ling
/ˈhwaɪt ˈnəkəɫˈɪŋ/
Noun
A term used to describe a person who is struggling to maintain their recovery and just clinging on.
Willingness vs. Willfulness
will·ing·ness vs. will·ful·ness
/ˈwɪɫɪŋnəs ˈviˈɛs ˈwɪɫfəɫˈnɛs/
Noun
Willingness refers to recognizing the reality of your situation and being an effective problem solver. In contrast, willfulness refers to refusing anything but your strictly planned goal.
WRAP
/ˈɹæp/
Noun
WRAP stands for “Wellness Recovery Action Plan.” It is highly personalized and empowers individuals to participate actively in their mental health recovery. It emphasizes self-awareness, self-management, and self-advocacy, promoting a proactive approach to mental wellness rather than solely reacting to crises.X
X-Out
yo·ga
/ˈɛks ˈaʊt/
Noun
Denote crossing out or eliminating something; overcoming obstacles or negative influences on the path to recovery or sobriety.
Y
Yoga
yo·ga
/ˈjoʊɡə/
Noun
Often used as a holistic practice to promote physical, mental, and spiritual well-being, which can be beneficial in recovery and sobriety contexts.
Yield
/ˈjiɫd/
Noun
The surrendering of one’s will or ego to a higher power or to the process of recovery itself.
Z
Zero Proof
zer·o proof
/ˈziɹoʊ ˈpɹuf/
Noun
Beverages that contain no alcohol.
