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Classy Problems: Observations of a Sidekick

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Classy Problems is a daily post of thinking in motion by Dan T. Rogers. Each post stands alone as a thought-provoking piece, yet together, they create a puzzle of ideas. They invite you to see things from a different angle, rethink what you thought you knew, and explore what’s beyond your current understanding.

Classy isn’t just a read: it’s a practice. Read, listen, and join us for Classy Problems Live, a 15-minute, live virtual conversation held Monday through Thursday at 12:15 p.m. PT, where we gather to reflect on the Classy Problems post of the day. No need to prep. Just connect, explore, and reflect. 

Diagnosing Priority

Everything felt important.
Everything felt urgent.
That was the problem.
My system didn’t have a filter.
Without a filter everything got treated the same.
Meetings. Messages. Crises. Invitations.
Every ping got my attention.
Until there was none left.
I thought I had a calendar problem.
It was a priority problem.
A lack of priorities is a classy problem.
I was assigning importance
based on immediacy.
Assigning urgency
based on someone else’s tone.
I started asking:
What’s the weight of this thing?
What’s the cost of not doing it?
We remembered what Eisenhower did.
A way to diagnose priority
without defaulting.
Two parts.
Urgency. Importance.
Both to be measured high or low.
Four combinations.
Each one tells the truth.
High Importance + High Urgency:
Immediate.
It matters. It’s already late.
High Importance + Low Urgency:
Schedule.
It matters. It can wait.
Low Importance + High Urgency:
Distraction.
It feels loud. It isn’t worth it.
Low Importance + Low Urgency:
Noise.
It doesn’t matter. It never will.
The Priority Grid: Diagnose doesn’t decide for me.
It reminds me what decisions matter.

Responding to Priority

My system didn’t have a filter.
Without a filter everything got treated the same.
I thought fast response meant good response.
It didn’t.
It meant I was reacting
without knowing what was required.
I gave the same energy to everything.
One priority is no priority.
We remembered what Eisenhower did.
A way to diagnose priority.
Each diagnosis sets a priority.
Each priority gets a response.
Immediate calls for Do.
Act now.
Handle it directly.
Don’t delay.
Scheduled calls for Decide.
Pick the time.
Protect the time.
Don’t treat it like a fire.
Distraction calls for Delegate.
Hand it off.
Move it out.
Don’t let it borrow focus.
Noise calls for Remove.
Say no.
Delete the task.
Don’t repeat the loop.
Responding by category protects my capacity.
I don’t waste intensity where it isn’t needed.
I don’t delay what demands action.
The Priority Grid: Respond doesn’t simplify the task.
It aligns the response to what matters.

Intentional Energy

I used to try to manage time.
Color-coded it.
Sliced it into 30-minute blocks.
Tried to stretch it.
Tried to beat it.
Time didn’t care.
It kept going.
Whether I was thriving, surviving, or drowning.
I blamed my calendar.
Blamed the workload.
Blamed my effort.
I got part of it right.
Not in the way I thought.
They were all places to spend energy.
I was blaming the symptom.
Missing the source.
No energy.
No clarity.
No capacity.
No chance.
Time isn’t my most valuable asset.
Energy is.
I’ll take more time if I can.
What I need is energy.
What I want is the right energy
at the right time
with the people who matter.
Without energy, I’m dead.
Literally.
That’s why we train it.
That’s why we protect it.
That’s why we copy those who see it clearly.
Physical shows my quantity.
Emotional shows my quality.
Mental shows my focus.
Spiritual shows my force.
Stacked.
Aligned.
On purpose.
I don’t want to overproduce.
I want to be intentional with my energy.

Just Released: Observations of a Sidekick – Who This Book Is For

It’s a reasonable question.
“Who’s this book for?”
It was reasonable 500 years ago
when books were rare.
It’s even more reasonable now.
I didn’t write this for the masses.
I wrote it because it was indicated.
Too many people have said the same thing:
You’re different.
Unexpected.
Unexplainable.
That the value I bring leaves them wondering:
What was that?
How do you think like that?
I didn’t always know.
Now I do.
This book helped me find the words.
This is how I think about it.
This is how I navigate it.
This is how I connect it.
Perfectly, imperfect.
Honestly, intentionally.
On purpose, on purpose.
Who is it for?
Another reasonable question.
If you’re living a life you wouldn’t trade,
and yet you sense you’re missing something.
If you’ve been underestimated,
misunderstood,
or told you’re too much,
but you’re still here,
still showing up,
still trying to make sense
of the way you see the world.
Stil trying to find your place in the world.
If you don’t need someone to tell you what to do,
but you’d give anything for a way to figure out
what not to do.
Then maybe,
it’s for you.
If it’s indicated, read it.
If it’s not, don’t.
That’s the most accurate answer I have.
The most honest thing I can say:
Read it, if it’s indicated.

Available for purchase HERE.

Physical Energy

I thought I was tired from the work.
It was deeper than that.
I was depleted from output.
I was under-fueled.
Under-rested.
Under-recovered.
I pushed through it.
Called it discipline.
Called it capacity.
It was burnout.
I didn’t need more motivation.
I needed oscillation.
I needed mediation.
I needed hydration.
Sleep.
Movement.
Fuel.
Mindset is worthless without a body to support it.
This is the base layer.
The first level.
The starting place.
Physical energy holds everything.
The energy that lives in the body.
Before it moves to the effort.
That’s why we track it.
That’s why prioritize it.
That’s why we train it.
Not to optimize.
To maximize.
It is the foundation.
When this level is low,
every other level pays the price.
Mental. Emotional. Spiritual.
We don’t push through this layer.
We develop from it.

Emotional Energy

I thought I was fine.
I was functioning.
I was getting things done.
I wasn’t feeling anything.
I didn’t feel energized.
Didn’t feel connected.
Didn’t feel like myself.
I thought it was discipline.
I was locked in.
I was numb.
Flat.
Disconnectied.
I kept showing up.
Kept producing.
Kept grinding through the fog.
Until I realized:
emotion doesn’t leak into the work.
It isn’t separate from work.
It is the work.
This is the second level.
The emotional layer is the quality.
It’s not how much energy I have.
It’s what kind.
Joy. Sorrow.
Gratitude. Entitlement.
Curiosity. Indifference.
Or the absence of all of it.
Emotional energy determines
how I experience the effort.
How I engage with the people.
How I recover from the cost.
That’s why we name it.
That’s why we protect it.
That’s why we build rituals to restore it.
When this layer is low,
everything feels heavier.
Everything takes longer.
Everything costs more.
Emotional energy doesn’t impact my day.
It shapes my meaning inside it.

Mental Energy

I thought I had a productivity problem.
I couldn’t stay focused.
I kept bouncing between things.
Forgetting what I was doing
while I was doing it.
I thought I needed better tools.
Better systems.
A sharper routine.
Those were all symptoms.
What I needed was mental energy.
I wasn’t distracted.
I was depleted.
Scrolling.
Multitasking.
Noise.
Trying to think through the fog.
I could still speak clearly.
Still make the connections.
Still put things in order.
I couldn’t hold a thought
long enough to do something with it.
This is the third level .
The layer of focus.
Where attention meets intention.
Where energy becomes targeted.
Mental energy is attention with a job.
Intentional.
It concentrates.
It sequences.
It cuts.
That’s why we reduce the noise.
That’s why we protect the signal.
That’s why we create conditions for clarity.
When this layer is low,
I get reactive.
I get sloppy.
I get loud without getting useful.
Mental energy doesn’t help me think.
It helps me decide what’s worth thinking about.


Classy Problems is a daily post of thinking in motion by Dan T. Rogers. Each post stands alone as a thought-provoking piece, yet together, they create a puzzle of ideas. They invite you to see things from a different angle, rethink what you thought you knew, and explore what’s beyond your current understanding.

What is a classy problem? A classy problem is when we’ve been afforded the opportunity to figure out what to do. Time to figure it out. Time to practice. Time to discern. When faced with the time to figure out a classy problem, it is more effective to focus on what NOT to do than trying to figure out what to do. In a word: restraint. JOIN US in exploring the distinction between what to do and what not to do in the pursuit of clarity.


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