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Classy Problems: Don’t Blame Others

Dan T. RogersBy Dan T. RogersJuly 7, 20256 Mins Read
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Classy Problems is a daily post of thinking in motion by Dan T. Rogers. Each post stands alone as a thought-provoking piece, yet together, they create a puzzle of ideas. They invite you to see things from a different angle, rethink what you thought you knew, and explore what’s beyond your current understanding.

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Don’t Be Certain

Don’t be certain – having an opinion is an act of courage.

Certainty is a mental construct that makes me feel safe. It’s efficient, not effective. It comes at the cost of the delusion of control.

Opinions are why we believe something to be true based on our preferences.

Believing we don’t have an opinion is unwilling to perceive the truth as we believe it to be. It comes at the cost of imagination.

When I say, “this is how I see it,” I own what I see without demanding agreement.

Having an opinion is stepping into possibility and away from what feels safe. It’s an act of courage.

In a world of infinite too much toomuchness, restraint draws a line. Don’t be certain is the line between delusion and imagination.

What opinion are you withholding in the name of certainty?

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Don’t Be Arrogant

Don’t be arrogant – copy the most effective.

The modern-day philosopher Drake said it best: “Being humble doesn’t work as well as being aware.”

Arrogance is grounded in the delusion that the problem is unique. Awareness embraces the fact that others have already charted the course.

The human condition has gone relatively unchanged for 1000’s of years. Who else or what else has done it before?

If there’s a smarter kid in class, the most aware and effective thing we can do is copy off them.

Not to plagiarize but to extend a pattern; borrowing what’s already been proven to work and translating it to our current conditions.

In a world of too much toomuchness, restraint draws a line. Don’t be arrogant is the line between terminal uniqueness and effectiveness.

Where are you being a special snowflake when you could be an intentional iterator?

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Don’t Blame Others

Don’t blame others – post-survival is 100% optional.

Blame gives me certainty at the cost of my own agency. It makes me feel right and someone or something else wrong.

Blame feels good and is based on a lie. The lie prevents me from seeing where I said yes, where I consented, where I became part of the pattern.

Post-survival reminds me that life is 100% optional. Thanks to theboss, most of our internal alignment as it relates to survival takes care of itself.

That leaves us with a massive set of post-survival choices. That’s a classy problem.

My actions and interactions​ are 100% mine to own.

In a world of too much toomuchness, restraint draws a line. Don’t blame others is the line between a lie and ownership.

What post-survival choices are you avoiding by pointing at someone else?

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Don’t Overproduce

Don’t overproduce – be intentional.

To produce is to create. It’s energy turned into effort. When I produce, do I know what I am creating, what is required to create, and why?

If I don’t, I’m overproducing.

To be intentional is to be present, adaptable. It is to be on my awareness, my unique contribution, on purpose. It’s appropriate effort.

When we focus on awesome, scale, and pull becomes a byproduct. Do the footwork and theboss will provide.

In a world of too much toomuchness, restraint draws a line. Don’t overproduce is the line between overproduction and appropriate effort.

Do you know what and why?

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Don’t Wait On Perfection

Don’t wait on perfection – make mistakes at full speed.

Perfection is a cute concept and an opinion, a preference. I’m not going to get perfect right.

Mistakes are vital to the process. The process is learning. The outcome is data, reference, feedback. Everything is learning.

Learning at full speed is not as fast as possible. It’s the appropriate speed based on clarity of vision, perceived risk, and competency.

When we don’t wait on perfection, we trade control for contribution and perfect for practice. Determine what is actually required.

Anything less than full speed only delays the learning process, which equals slow-motion learning.

In a world of too much toomuchness, restraint draws a line. Don’t wait on perfection is the line between being stuck and learning at full speed.

Are you afraid of making a mistake or learning?

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Inevitable Oscillation

Everything moves. Everything shifts. Everything oscillates.

The beliefs that we can lock in certainty, nail down the perfect system, or finally get everything just right are stories we tell ourselves to feel safe.

Control is a comforting illusion.

Reality doesn’t work that way. The mistake isn’t in seeking stability. It’s in thinking that stability means stillness.

Oscillation is stability in motion. It’s how we stay aligned without locking ourselves into rigidity.

Surrendering to what’s inevitable isn’t giving up. It’s seeing clearly. It’s recognizing that alignment isn’t a destination but a practice. It is a continuous process of adjusting, refining, and realigning. It’s oscillation.

Where could you surrender to the inevitable and commit to intentional oscillation?

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Recovery Is A Part of Progress

Stress isn’t the enemy — it’s an inevitable part of life’s toomuchness. In fact, it’s required for development. No stress, no growth, no development.

The problem isn’t the stress itself but how we recover after encountering it, whether externally or internally imposed. Precious thinking, which seeks to avoid or eliminate stress entirely, distracts us from the real opportunity: aligning recovery with our needs.

Recovery is a part of the process. Strategic oscillation is about balancing effort with intentional restoration, allowing what may feel difficult or challenging to guide us toward clarity.

When we embrace stress as a condition for alignment, we turn recovery into progress.

Are you managing stress with purposeful recovery or compounding stress by fighting the inevitable?


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Classy Problems is a daily post of thinking in motion by Dan T. Rogers. Each post stands alone as a thought-provoking piece, yet together, they create a puzzle of ideas. They invite you to see things from a different angle, rethink what you thought you knew, and explore what’s beyond your current understanding.

What is a classy problem? A classy problem is when we’ve been afforded the opportunity to figure out what to do. Time to figure it out. Time to practice. Time to discern. When faced with the time to figure out a classy problem, it is more effective to focus on what NOT to do than trying to figure out what to do. In a word: restraint. JOIN US in exploring the distinction between what to do and what not to do in the pursuit of clarity.

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