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Classy Problems: Competition vs. Contribution

Dan T. RogersBy Dan T. RogersSeptember 29, 20256 Mins Read
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Classy Problems is a daily post of thinking in motion by Dan T. Rogers. Each post stands alone as a thought-provoking piece, yet together, they create a puzzle of ideas. They invite you to see things from a different angle, rethink what you thought you knew, and explore what’s beyond your current understanding.

Classy isn’t just a read: it’s a practice. Read, listen, and join us for Classy Problems Live, a 15-minute, live virtual conversation held Monday through Thursday at 12:15p PT, where we gather to reflect on the Classy Problems post of the day. No need to prep. Just connect, explore, and reflect. 

Classy Problems Black Crown

Closer to Right (CtR)

I wanted to get it right.
Nailed down.
Buttoned up.
Proof I knew what I was doing.
I called it determination.
It was control.
The loop of needing to be right
instead of getting closer to right.
Perfection in the name of precision.
Progress held hostage by the pressure to perform perfectly.
Like trying to write the final version
before the first draft is lived.
Or locking the plan
before listening to the pattern.
I told myself I was being intentional.
I was being rigid.
CtR isn’t about being right.
It’s about refining.
Realigning.
Developing what’s here,
not being stuck in what should be.
This loop has a signature:
The pressure to be finished
instead of faithful
to the next version of next.
What helps me have faith
in next version of next:
Is this good enuf for now
or am I pretending it’s finished?
Clarity today isn’t the end.
It’s the beginning of tomorrow’s pursuit.
All we ever have is a beginning.
What matters is the pursuit of clarity.
Direction over destination.
Closer to right.

Classy Problems Black Crown

How To and Why

I wanted clear instructions.
Step-by-step.
Show me the path.
Tell me how to win.
I called it preparation.
It was avoidance.
The loop of looking for HOW TO do something.
Instead of WHY to do something.
I wasn’t lost.
I was disoriented.
Mistaking the lack of directions
for a lack of direction.
I didn’t need a map.
I needed a compass.
HOW TO is fixed.
WHY adapts.
HOW TO locks in one way.
WHY unlocks the next version of next.
When I focus on why,
certainty becomes orientation.
Control becomes coherence.
I don’t follow a path.
I follow a trajectory.
I sense my way forward.
Indicated, not imposed.
Like taking the next step
without knowing the whole staircase.
Trusting the direction
without needing the destination.
The loop of needing to know HOW
is disrupted by remembering WHY.
What develops trust
without destination:
What is this effort for?
Is the outcome aligned with what matters?
Does the HOW still serve the WHY?
HOW TO helps me start.
WHY keeps me going.
When I focus on WHY,
I move with intention.
I move on purpose, on purpose.

Classy Problems Black Crown

Translation Required

I think I’m learning.
I’m reading.
Listening.
Taking notes.
Paying attention.
Applying what I’ve been told.
It looks like growth.
It feels like effort.
It is the accumulation of knowledge.
It isn’t the construction of understanding.
It’s me following.
Efficient.
Accurate.
Articulated in my guide’s words.
I mistook their orientation
for my own.
Adopted the method
without making meaning.
Applied the tactic
without translating the truth.
Knowledge is given.
Understanding is built.
One outcome at a time.
Especially the ones I don’t like.
When something works, I can repeat it.
When it doesn’t, I can reflect on it.
Only if I’m paying attention to what it means for me.
Guides can point to the information.
Only I can translate information into insight.
Only I can build meaning
I can live by.
Learning is a translation process.
It moves from borrowed to built.
From repeated to revealed.
From someone else’s words
to my own wisdom.

Classy Problems Black Crown

Competition vs. Contribution

I wanted to win.
To prove myself.
To stand out.
To get what I’d earned.
I called it ambition.
It was comparison.
The loop of competing for worth
instead of contributing from it.
Focused on outcomes.
Validation.
A scoreboard only I could see and
somehow couldn’t win.
Competition narrows the lens.
Who’s ahead.
What’s mine.
What’s next.
Contribution expands the lens.
Who’s here.
What’s needed.
What’s possible.
Competing demands certainty and control.
It thrives on urgency.
Requires winners.
Creates scarcity.
Contribution requires clarity and alignment.
It thrives on presence.
Invites participation.
Creates connection.
When I compete,
I try to earn my place.
When I contribute,
I realize I already have one.
What helps find clarity:
What am I trying to win?
What am I afraid to lose?
What could I offer,
if I stopped trying to prove?
The goal isn’t to beat someone else.
It’s to bring more of myself.
Fully. Faithfully.
On purpose, on purpose.
To contribute.

Classy Problems Black Crown

The Picture and The Frame

I thought I was seeing clearly.
Looking at the full picture.
I was reacting to the frame.
The picture is what is.
The frame is how I see it.
What’s in view.
What’s cropped.
What’s highlighted.
What’s left out.
I confused the frame with the truth.
Accepted someone else’s boundary
As the boundary of reality.
Didn’t notice what was left out.
Didn’t question who set the edge.
Didn’t ask what story the frame was trying to tell.
Every frame carries bias.
The frame tells you more about the framer
than it does about the picture.
That includes mine.
Like getting feedback
and only hearing the tone.
Missing the truth in the content.
Hearing a decision and assuming
it was about me
instead of the whole system.
This is the loop of reacting to the frame
instead of reflecting on the full picture.
Mistaking what’s familiar
for what’s real.
Mistaking what’s visible
for what’s complete.
What helps me see the whole:
What’s informing this frame?
Whose story am I looking through?
Is this the truth
or my perception?
Framing is inevitable.
Clarity comes from knowing the difference between
seeing a picture and looking at the frame.

Classy Problems Black Crown

Discomfort In Awareness

I thought awareness would help me feel better.
More grounded.
More in control.
It didn’t.
I called it progress.
It was exposure.
Awareness itself isn’t relief.
It doesn’t resolve suffering.
It uncovers the source.
Like realizing I’m overwhelmed
from saying yes too much.
The loop of conscious incompetence.
Clarity that feels worse before it feels useful.
Am I willing to let it show me what needs fixing?
Awareness doesn’t end the discomfort.
It makes the discomfort honest.
That’s where my work begins.

Classy Problems Black Crown

Obsessing or Assessing

There are times when I am convinced I am invested.
My actions support it.
Turning it over in my head.
Rethinking. Reworking. Rewording.
Again. Again. Again.
It felt like diligence.
It was attachment.
I called it leadership.
It was the delusion of control.
I can’t see it.
When I am inside it.
When I fixate on details.
Details that keep me stuck.
Trying to get one thing
just right.
Perfect before moving on
to the next thing.
I think I’m assessing.
I’m obsessing.
Like reworking one sentence in a post.
Maybe this post.
For hours.
Hoping precision would protect me
from being misunderstood.
Obsession has a signature.
Urgency without clarity.
A rising pressure to act.
It’s not grounded in what matters.
It’s grounded in how I feel.
What helps me isn’t letting go.
It’s stepping back,
zooming out.
Not to disconnect.
To evaluate.
To see more of what is here.
To pause and ask:
Is this signal or noise?
Is this necessary or familiar?
Am I reacting or responding?
Obsession distorts.
Assessment reveals.
Obsession demands urgency.
Assessment commands alignment.
One is reactionary.
Driven by attachment.
The other is intentional.
Driven by understanding.
How do you notice the difference between
the feeling of urgency and understanding the need for it?


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Classy Problems is a daily post of thinking in motion by Dan T. Rogers. Each post stands alone as a thought-provoking piece, yet together, they create a puzzle of ideas. They invite you to see things from a different angle, rethink what you thought you knew, and explore what’s beyond your current understanding.

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