Father’s Day often brings a heartfelt mix of nostalgia, pride, and maybe even a bit of trepidation for many dads—especially those on a journey of sobriety. On The Sober Curator’s “Bonus Buzz – Father’s Day Special,” hosts Jason Mayo and Tamar Routly were joined by Stephen Kimball, creator of the Sober Dad Crew Podcast, for a raw and relatable discussion about what it means to parent (and cringe at dad jokes) fully present and alcohol-free.
Rediscovering Presence: The Sober Dad Advantage
One of the resounding themes from Jason and Stephen’s dialogue is the gift of true presence that sobriety can offer fathers. Stephen reflected on those blurry early days of parenting: “If you’re defining parenthood, fatherhood… the big job is to be present for your kids and show them that you love them. Not tell them, show them.”
Both Jason and Stephen got sober when their kids were young enough not to remember the darkest moments of addiction, a fact they count as a blessing but also a motivator. Jason shared, “My oldest was seven and my youngest three when I got sober. Thinking back on those years, it’s tough to remember who I even was. I was a different dad then—definitely not as present.”
What stood out was the duo’s focus on forgiveness—for themselves and each other. The classic struggle: Do you regret your ‘before’ years, or do you accept them as part of your journey? Stephen candidly admitted regret, especially as someone who had a ‘second shot’ at fatherhood in a blended, now sober family. But both dads emphasized that grace and growth trump perfectionism.
Jason highlighted the “progress, not perfection” philosophy: “I want to be a little bit better every day. That came from sobriety… and when you look at it as progress, it’s easier to give yourself—and your kids—grace.”
The Joys and Chaos of Sober Parenting
The podcast wasn’t all heavy topics. Laughter is fuel for sober families, and parenting, it turns out, can be downright hilarious. From waking up reluctant teenagers (Jason confessed to blasting Megadeth in his daughter’s bedroom) to the punchlines of groan-worthy dad jokes, embracing the ridiculous is sometimes the saving grace: “I think in my best moments,” said Stephen, “I’m a little bit ridiculous, very dad-jokey. In our family, everything’s on the table. We’ll talk about any topic—even if it’s meth or pimple woes!”
Their candid stories about teenagers judging their social media fame (“micro-celebrity status” according to Jason) reinforced that sober dads are all about showing up—even if it means being the butt of a joke.
For sober parents, “projecting” is a persistent battle—spotting echoes of their own struggles in their children, whether it’s with anxiety, sadness, or even substance experimentation. Jason admitted, “It’s hard not to look at every issue and think, ‘Will she turn out like me?’” Stephen agreed, especially after his daughter’s battle with an eating disorder.
Their solution: Be honest, be open, and, above all, let go. “You have to let kids have their own journey,” Stephen explained. “Guide them, show up, and sometimes, that’s all you can do.”
Hope for Sober or Sober-Curious Dads
To dads who still feel lost in addiction or new to sobriety, both Jason and Stephen had a powerful message: There’s always light—a way back, even after big mistakes. “Rebuilding trust takes time,” Stephen said. “You have to show, not just tell your kids you’ve changed. It’s easy to lose trust, and super hard to rebuild it. But it’s possible.”
Sobriety, they concluded, is about intentional living—choosing to be better not just for yourself, but for the people who matter most.
The episode finished, fittingly, with a flurry of terrible (and amazing) dad jokes and shoutouts to all the resilient, fun-loving, and sometimes “needy” dads out there.
So here’s to the sober dads—the ones relearning how to parent, joke, love, and show up. To those navigating blended families, rough patches, or just another ordinary school morning: you matter, and you’re doing better than you think.
Happy Father’s Day. And remember, “Getting sober matters. Staying sober matters more.”
BONUS BUZZ: Dad Jokes and Real (Sober) Talk with Jason Mayo and Stephen Kimball – TSC Podcast
Hosted by Alysse Bryson & Tamar Routly, and produced by Podcast Impact Studio, The Sober Curator Podcast brings sober lifestyle, pop culture, & recovery to the mic. Alongside Alysse & Tamar, rotating global contributors join as co-hosts to explore zero-proof drinks, sober travel, quit lit, entertainment, & mental health. This is sober media with personality, perspective, & a glitter bomb of honesty. Sober-curious or living alcohol-free, we’ve got you! We’re not here to help you get sober. We’re here to help you live sober: and love it.
Golf has the 19th hole. Skiing has après. Every sport comes with a drink attached, and three sober athletes on three continents decided to keep the sport and lose the drink.
In this bonus episode, recorded live at BACKSTAGE with The Sober Curator, SOBA Golf founder Corey Davis, Soberski founder Ben Coombes and electric skateboarder Bianca Criaco join Alysse Bryson and co-host Tamar Routly to talk obsession, potential and the rush that beats the buzz.
In this episode:
– How Corey went from a 30 index to a 3 in four years, and why golf has no finish line
– Why Ben quit drinking in the one place he knew would be hardest: a ski resort
– Bianca on how an electric skateboard got her through early sobriety, and finishing dead last at nationals
– ”Mr. Potential” and what happens when you finally stop wasting it
– Walking shoulder to shoulder: why sport gets people talking
– What each guest's sport gives them on a bad day
CHAPTERS 0:00 Welcome to BACKSTAGE: Sober Sports 1:52 Corey Davis and SOBA Golf 6:13 Ben Coombes and Soberski 9:25 Bianca Criaco and electric skateboarding 13:21 ”I came in dead last” 13:54 How sport changes recovery 22:27 Sober on top of a mountain 23:47 How fast is an electric skateboard? 29:12 The guests interview each other 30:10 ”Mr. Potential” 33:52 Intuition over potential 41:33 Quitting in the hardest place first 46:30 Hindsight: be relentless 50:38 What your sport gives you on a bad day 54:51 Wrap-up
Sober Shots:
”With golf, there's no destination.” (Corey Davis)
”Joy, especially for me, is something that I don't think I've had my entire life.” (Bianca Criaco)
Mentioned in this episode:
– SOBA Golf: https://soba.golf
– Soberski: https://www.soberski.co.uk
– Bianca Criaco + The Choice podcast: https://www.biancacriaco.com
– Hear more from Ben on Episode 16: https://thesobercurator.com/sober-ski-trips-are-real-inside-soberskis-alcohol-free-chalet-week/
– Join BACKSTAGE for live conversations like this every month
Getting sober matters. Staying sober matters more.
SEASON 2 MERCH: https://shopthesobercurator.com/
SC RESOURCES:
– Alcohol + Substance Use Disorder Guide
– Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide
– LGBTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide
CONNECT: www.thesobercurator.com | The Sober Sip newsletter: https://www.thesobercuratornewsletter.com/ | @thesobercurator on Instagram, X, TikTok, YouTube + Pinterest
Love the show? Rate, review + follow. It takes 60 seconds and helps more people find us. Feedback + guest ideas: thesobercurator@gmail.com
Hosted by Alysse Bryson with co-host + producer Tamar Routly. For informational and entertainment purposes only; not a substitute for professional advice.
Music: TSC S2 theme ”Sober Shots” created by Alysse Bryson using Suno AI, under Suno's commercial license.
Sober Dad Crew: A Safe Haven for Sober Fathers and Those in Recovery
Sober Dad Crew Podcast: Episode 50 Jason Mayo
#ADDTOCART: Sober Dads Gift Guide
Recovery is hard 24/7, 365 – Please know that resources are available
If you or someone you know is experiencing difficulties surrounding alcoholism, addiction, or mental illness, please reach out and ask for help. People everywhere can and want to help; you just have to know where to look. And continue to look until you find what works for you. Click here for a list of regional and national resources. If your life or someone else’s is in imminent danger, please call 911. If you are in crisis and need immediate help, please call: 988.
